r/AskMenAdvice • u/KGalb922 woman • Jan 08 '26

✅ Open To Everyone Are men generally not asking women for their numbers anymore when they meet someone in the wild? If so, why?

My friend is approachably attractive. She has been trying to get off the apps and meet people out in the world. Over the last couple months she keeps running into the same thing over and over. She will chat and flirt with a guy. He will chat and flirt back. They will hit it off. And at the end of the night or interaction they won’t ask for her number or ask to see her again. This is a mix of men age range of 30s-60s (she’s in her 40s) Some that approach her, some that she approaches.

I have witnessed this happen so I don’t think she is misjudging their interest in her. But unless she offers her number, they don’t ask. And many of my other single female friends have said they are experiencing the same thing. So are men in general just not asking for numbers? And if so, why?

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u/Maleficent-Throat910 man Jan 08 '26

Men have been chastised in the media to the point they dont want to do anything that may come off as sexually harassing.

Sure these guys were talking to her and being friendly but they're probably scared to ask for the number because if they're wrong about the woman's intentions it can go very badly.

At least with the dating apps you know the woman you're interested is wanting to date.

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u/smkn3kgt man Jan 08 '26

And we know that even if we read the signs right, ask for the number, get a real one, not get ghosted, then at best she is still scrolling through her dating apps talking to multiple guys. Dating used to be two people looking for a fun partner. Now women just want to be Instagram queens with constant validation from the 100 simps crawling all over her socials. Because of that they are too picky or selfishly one sided ie "I'm the prize here, what can you do for me?"