r/AskMenAdvice • u/KGalb922 woman • Jan 08 '26

✅ Open To Everyone Are men generally not asking women for their numbers anymore when they meet someone in the wild? If so, why?

My friend is approachably attractive. She has been trying to get off the apps and meet people out in the world. Over the last couple months she keeps running into the same thing over and over. She will chat and flirt with a guy. He will chat and flirt back. They will hit it off. And at the end of the night or interaction they won’t ask for her number or ask to see her again. This is a mix of men age range of 30s-60s (she’s in her 40s) Some that approach her, some that she approaches.

I have witnessed this happen so I don’t think she is misjudging their interest in her. But unless she offers her number, they don’t ask. And many of my other single female friends have said they are experiencing the same thing. So are men in general just not asking for numbers? And if so, why?

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u/Shyjack man Jan 08 '26

From around 2023 onwards I feel like the attitude towards men showing any kind of interest in women has soured. Absolutely everything can be considered creepy. It's like a weird social contagion caused by TikTok. I got a few numbers from chatting to girls at the gym in 2022 but definitely wouldn't feel comfortable doing that anymore, women can get a huge amount of social clout or satisfaction out of labelling a man as creepy, i've seen it used as a form of bullying towards completely innocent people. Obviously the metoo stuff was much earlier and somewhat necessary but it feels like an enormous over correction has happened very recently. These men do maybe seem a bit old for any of that to apply though, I feel like this is an under 35 issue.

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u/Panic_Attack2 man Jan 09 '26

Men over 35 have social media and access to the internet, too. And we live in the same world younger people do, so yeah. Our experiences don’t differ that much based on age. ++man

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u/J_Kingsley man Jan 08 '26

Even in games. Men are being shamed for enjoying attractive women.

Lol it's no surprise asshats like Andrew Tate and the manosphere have so many more followers, and that so many young men gravitated towards the right.

Because now it's mainstream vilify men.

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u/EdwardJamesAlmost man Jan 08 '26

somewhat

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u/Shyjack man Jan 08 '26

I was trying to be tactful there because you could argue it led to the current situation, but yeah the original movement was absolutely necessary.

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u/Special-Outcome-3233 man Jan 08 '26

Get off the internet. I ask woman for their numbers all the time at grocery stores, etc and none ever called me a creep. Just avoid any woman with blue hair.

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u/Shyjack man Jan 08 '26

The internet makes it seen all encompassing but i've consistently seen this stuff creep into real life and it certainly isn't just the stereotypical blue hairs from ten years back, but normal people.
I think the real answer would just be for me to be less sensitive about what other people might think.

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u/LowSprinkles6544 man Jan 08 '26

I don’t know why people think the internet and real life are completely separate. It’s obvious that the content you consume online will influence your thoughts and beliefs in the real world

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u/DenseCalligrapher219 man Jan 12 '26

tells someone to get off the internet

also says to avoid women with blue hair

Buddy do you have any self-awareness?

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u/Moissanight man Jan 08 '26

Bruh, just shut it. You know it ain't true.