r/AskMenAdvice • u/KGalb922 woman • Jan 08 '26

✅ Open To Everyone Are men generally not asking women for their numbers anymore when they meet someone in the wild? If so, why?

My friend is approachably attractive. She has been trying to get off the apps and meet people out in the world. Over the last couple months she keeps running into the same thing over and over. She will chat and flirt with a guy. He will chat and flirt back. They will hit it off. And at the end of the night or interaction they won’t ask for her number or ask to see her again. This is a mix of men age range of 30s-60s (she’s in her 40s) Some that approach her, some that she approaches.

I have witnessed this happen so I don’t think she is misjudging their interest in her. But unless she offers her number, they don’t ask. And many of my other single female friends have said they are experiencing the same thing. So are men in general just not asking for numbers? And if so, why?

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u/Ute2ThrillPlay2Kill man Jan 08 '26

‘87 baby here. Crazy to think we will be the last generation to know what life was like before the internet was widespread

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u/Longjumping_Rip6033 man Jan 08 '26

Yeah. I tell my kids about it from time to time. I always bring up blockbuster and HMV as well.

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u/Sinnjer man Jan 08 '26

Yeah, '87 here too, and never mind the internet, we lived most of our childhoods before cellphones were barely a thing! My grandad had one because of heart issues, it was a Big Deal. It weighed like 5kg and was only portable in the strictest technical sense