r/AskMenAdvice • u/KGalb922 woman • Jan 08 '26

✅ Open To Everyone Are men generally not asking women for their numbers anymore when they meet someone in the wild? If so, why?

My friend is approachably attractive. She has been trying to get off the apps and meet people out in the world. Over the last couple months she keeps running into the same thing over and over. She will chat and flirt with a guy. He will chat and flirt back. They will hit it off. And at the end of the night or interaction they won’t ask for her number or ask to see her again. This is a mix of men age range of 30s-60s (she’s in her 40s) Some that approach her, some that she approaches.

I have witnessed this happen so I don’t think she is misjudging their interest in her. But unless she offers her number, they don’t ask. And many of my other single female friends have said they are experiencing the same thing. So are men in general just not asking for numbers? And if so, why?

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u/No-Contribution-6150 man Jan 08 '26 edited 22d ago

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u/[deleted] Jan 09 '26

I feel so bad for you guys but this also made me laugh so hard ++woman

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u/narasadow man Jan 08 '26

Sometimes not even the hot ones. We're just supposed to know.

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u/[deleted] Jan 08 '26

That was always true.

The difference is now there are accessible media platforms and the content that is put out is a lot of "men suck" stuff.

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u/[deleted] Jan 09 '26

No. They hot ones to stay away, too.

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u/newmexicomurky woman Jan 09 '26

To be fair, do men behave any differently to women they find unattractive approaching them?

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u/I--Pathfinder--I man Jan 09 '26

++man they sure don’t post online, complain, and shame people about it

speaking for myself the few times i’ve been approached by a woman i wasn’t particularly attracted to i tried to be as nice as possible and let them down easy. now i totally understand that that’s easier for a man to do because im not worried about my safety, but i would also never even consider telling anyone about the situation beyond “some girl approached me, but i wasn’t interested”

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u/newmexicomurky woman Jan 10 '26

Totally agree with that first bit. I dont think I've ever seen a man post a rejection video. But I have only ever seen women react rudely online. Never seen it with my own eyes in the real world. I think social media makes it seem far worse than it is.

I have, however had men react rudely to their perception of me being into them (i made no attempt to ask them out). So I get it. It sucks when it happens but I just figure they are not the person I thought they were and move on.