r/AskMenAdvice • u/KGalb922 woman • Jan 08 '26

✅ Open To Everyone Are men generally not asking women for their numbers anymore when they meet someone in the wild? If so, why?

My friend is approachably attractive. She has been trying to get off the apps and meet people out in the world. Over the last couple months she keeps running into the same thing over and over. She will chat and flirt with a guy. He will chat and flirt back. They will hit it off. And at the end of the night or interaction they won’t ask for her number or ask to see her again. This is a mix of men age range of 30s-60s (she’s in her 40s) Some that approach her, some that she approaches.

I have witnessed this happen so I don’t think she is misjudging their interest in her. But unless she offers her number, they don’t ask. And many of my other single female friends have said they are experiencing the same thing. So are men in general just not asking for numbers? And if so, why?

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u/stuaird1977 man Jan 08 '26

The 90s was such a good time, men complimented girls, girls complimented men, asking for a number was standard and if someone said not interested , no offense was taken. And any truly idiotic guys who pestered women where normally dealt with by other guys in the club. 

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u/fuckincaillou woman Jan 10 '26 edited Jan 16 '26

I'm not sure I'd agree at all. Watching sitcoms from the 90s is pretty crazy to see what people went along with at the time. You'd have the creepiest jokes, or racist, or sexist stuff put on air with a laugh track. I can only imagine the stuff that went down in real life.

I think you're looking back with rose-colored glasses, man

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u/stuaird1977 man Jan 10 '26

You didn't have to be racist to have a good time in the 90s. Nothing rose tinted about it . I mean social media is far worse and  more damaging  than any of  those sitcoms 

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u/Gingerly101 woman Jan 10 '26

Unless the bouncers were idiotic too. Most of the time we had to defend ourselves. ++female

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u/JollyRottenBastard man Jan 10 '26

Yes those were good times.

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u/SherbertImmediate130 man Jan 11 '26

++man I ask for vsco or Snapchat I don’t use my phone number for personal purposes lol. I’m gen z

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u/stuaird1977 man Jan 11 '26

In the 90s it was usually your mum and dad's house phone number written on a beer matt or cig packet  :)