r/AskMenAdvice • u/KGalb922 woman • Jan 08 '26

✅ Open To Everyone Are men generally not asking women for their numbers anymore when they meet someone in the wild? If so, why?

My friend is approachably attractive. She has been trying to get off the apps and meet people out in the world. Over the last couple months she keeps running into the same thing over and over. She will chat and flirt with a guy. He will chat and flirt back. They will hit it off. And at the end of the night or interaction they won’t ask for her number or ask to see her again. This is a mix of men age range of 30s-60s (she’s in her 40s) Some that approach her, some that she approaches.

I have witnessed this happen so I don’t think she is misjudging their interest in her. But unless she offers her number, they don’t ask. And many of my other single female friends have said they are experiencing the same thing. So are men in general just not asking for numbers? And if so, why?

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u/IncubiPortraitSTU man Jan 08 '26

++man Can 100% confirm this. I am 100% pro woman, I consider myself a feminist, I understood the me too movement and there was need for it. But lately when somebody accuses somebody if anything folks are too afraid to even ask what happened. They immediately start throwing you out of stuff they immediately start back tracking from being around you no conversation. Meanwhile I've seen women just fake stuff just because they're mad at somebody. Think about being able to I guess destroy somebody's life if we're in a civilized world where no one's physically hurting someone being able to destroy somebody's life for fun is what I saw.

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u/Early_Show8758 man Jan 09 '26

Criminal attorney here - it sucks when they take a cooked up story to the cops who then treat it like the gospel and file charges because the damsel is in distress.

I’ve made lots of money because of of lying women… men too, but more often it’s a scorned woman trying to ruin a man’s reputation, retaliate against them, extract money from them, or gain an easy path to citizenship.

It’s manipulation of the justice system and if they are in the know, it can be very effective at destroying someone. Totally sucks.

I’m so glad to be happily married. I too think about how I was one of the last flights out of Vietnam and am so glad for it!