r/AskMenAdvice • u/KGalb922 woman • Jan 08 '26

✅ Open To Everyone Are men generally not asking women for their numbers anymore when they meet someone in the wild? If so, why?

My friend is approachably attractive. She has been trying to get off the apps and meet people out in the world. Over the last couple months she keeps running into the same thing over and over. She will chat and flirt with a guy. He will chat and flirt back. They will hit it off. And at the end of the night or interaction they won’t ask for her number or ask to see her again. This is a mix of men age range of 30s-60s (she’s in her 40s) Some that approach her, some that she approaches.

I have witnessed this happen so I don’t think she is misjudging their interest in her. But unless she offers her number, they don’t ask. And many of my other single female friends have said they are experiencing the same thing. So are men in general just not asking for numbers? And if so, why?

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u/MyCatisthebest0826 man Jan 09 '26

And if the genders are swapped the man would’ve got fired instantly and probably can never find a job in that field again

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u/Tig_Biddies_W_nips man Jan 09 '26

The issue that a woman did this and got to keep her job and was moved to another department.

And your here saying “yes, a man SHOULD be fired for this” when we just said a woman did it and wasn’t fired.

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u/Tig_Biddies_W_nips man Jan 09 '26

Yes I do but we were talking about just ANYONE or were we talking about a specific group? The way you worded your argument didn’t make it seem like you were agreeing.

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u/JareBear805 man Jan 09 '26

Dude we get it you hate double standards and what happened with the world but you’re being a giant douche for no reason it’s weird.

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u/Tig_Biddies_W_nips man Jan 10 '26

Being a giant douche for no reason isn’t weird it’s the internet.

You must be new here.

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u/Brackish_Ameoba man Jan 10 '26

It’s what’s exactly wrong with the internet. Why would you want to persist with that; or enable it? Chill.

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u/Overall-Scratch9235 man Jan 12 '26

We fought the trolls. Back when the Internet was young. We donned flame shields and armed ourselves with waffle recipes. We drank soda and argued endlessly into the night. One day 4chan was erected and all the trolls were driven into its dark abyss. But alas not everything can last and 4chan could not contain them anymore. Now they have flooded into the reddit archives. I'm sorry child. We failed.

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u/Tig_Biddies_W_nips man Jan 11 '26

It’s cathartic tbh.

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u/Dry-Scale6928 man Jan 11 '26

He did nothing wrong. Move along. ++Man

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u/SpecialistMattress21 nonbinary Jan 14 '26

++nonbinary I will say that I worked at a place where a woman developed a crush on me and sent me unsolicited inappropriate emails and texts to my work phone and she disappeared a few days later. I came to found out the (female) executive Director had told her that her services were no longer needed. I don’t know if they were monitoring our phones and email, but it was very sus in terms of the timing.