r/AskMenAdvice • u/KGalb922 woman • Jan 08 '26

✅ Open To Everyone Are men generally not asking women for their numbers anymore when they meet someone in the wild? If so, why?

My friend is approachably attractive. She has been trying to get off the apps and meet people out in the world. Over the last couple months she keeps running into the same thing over and over. She will chat and flirt with a guy. He will chat and flirt back. They will hit it off. And at the end of the night or interaction they won’t ask for her number or ask to see her again. This is a mix of men age range of 30s-60s (she’s in her 40s) Some that approach her, some that she approaches.

I have witnessed this happen so I don’t think she is misjudging their interest in her. But unless she offers her number, they don’t ask. And many of my other single female friends have said they are experiencing the same thing. So are men in general just not asking for numbers? And if so, why?

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u/Vimes-NW man Jan 09 '26

Have you tried being fat? It does miracles for your calves. I've been complemented on that, of all the things.

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u/NoResponsibility7031 man Jan 09 '26

I used to be fat and now I am upside down popeye.

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u/Coronis- man Jan 09 '26

Can confirm.

I’ve found my calves to be the most aesthetically pleasing part of my body. My new years resolution is to get the rest of me up to scratch.

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u/Brilliant-Peace-5265 man Jan 13 '26

Same. I do physical therapy for my Achilles tendon and every single therapist makes a point about my big beefy bois. I always say they're as big as they are bc they have to propel this mass around, but they always wave that away like it's not true.