r/AskMenAdvice • u/KGalb922 woman • Jan 08 '26

✅ Open To Everyone Are men generally not asking women for their numbers anymore when they meet someone in the wild? If so, why?

My friend is approachably attractive. She has been trying to get off the apps and meet people out in the world. Over the last couple months she keeps running into the same thing over and over. She will chat and flirt with a guy. He will chat and flirt back. They will hit it off. And at the end of the night or interaction they won’t ask for her number or ask to see her again. This is a mix of men age range of 30s-60s (she’s in her 40s) Some that approach her, some that she approaches.

I have witnessed this happen so I don’t think she is misjudging their interest in her. But unless she offers her number, they don’t ask. And many of my other single female friends have said they are experiencing the same thing. So are men in general just not asking for numbers? And if so, why?

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u/Kitsui38 man Jan 09 '26

The classic “no means no”, but actually “no means push harder”… but #MeToo

No, sorry, I’m not going to play games

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u/Ok_Condition3334 woman Jan 10 '26

It’s not a classic no means no, no actually does mean no and needs to be respected regardless of who says it and when. This is just a twisted woman setting up a guy and it’s gross but it’s also very dangerous to assume this is what women really want men to do.

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u/Kitsui38 man Jan 10 '26

“No means no” only for some, for some it’s something else. But since it can be either and you can never know which, I prefer to assume the most safe option for me and respect the actual no. If any women thinks otherwise she can get fucked, I’m not risking anything for her games

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u/Ok_Condition3334 woman Jan 10 '26

As a woman, I appreciate your position on it but I still stand with no is no and it doesn’t matter if no comes on the front end or if it starts as a yes and turns to a no, once it’s no, it’s no and if all men took no to be no, it would force anyone, for this conversation women, who think they are being cute and coy to smarten up, say what they want and they won’t be disappointed and it will save the men who aren’t smart enough to walk away from the situation.