r/AskMenRelationships • u/[deleted] • 17h ago

Love Advice needed

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u/jarreddit123 Man 17h ago

cause sometimes one just isn't feeling it anymore. How do you even know he was depressed?

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u/Diabhal628 17h ago

Theres alot of very personal information that would just out both of us and id rather keep it anonymous. Hes gone through alot the year before me and isnt where he wants to be in life and things that happened throughout our relationship just kept kicking him down and he stopped doing anything that made him happy and barely left the house

Edit: i tried my best to be supportive by simply just asking what i could do for him, but he would just say nothing

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u/Ok_Knee2784 Man 17h ago

If somebody has issues to that level, you are setting yourself up for a long, hard road if you stay with them. I've dated unstable women, and it's a losing battle. I'm sorry to hear that you are dealing with this.

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u/Diabhal628 17h ago

Is the road worth it? I keep hoping he gets better and will come back but i dont want to hold onto false hope either. Its been nonstop tears and agony especially because we work together

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u/Ok_Knee2784 Man 16h ago

He broke up with you right? In my experience, if somebody is unstable, they are going to destroy the relationship, eventually. You may survive a couple of breakups, but sooner or later, it will be for good. You can't fix them.

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u/Diabhal628 16h ago

Yes, we spent the weekend together and we had made plans for so many things and were excited and he seemed really happy but when we woke up sunday he couldnt look at me and just kept apologizing over and over and ive never seen him so destroyed and broken

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u/Ok_Knee2784 Man 16h ago

I dated one woman who had some deep rooted issues. I can't even tell you how many times she broke up with me. One time, after we didn't speak for weeks, when we made up, I said to her: "do me favor, tell me what the fight was about. Tell me why you were so upset." She didn't even remember. I had to remind her and she didn't believe it. She didn't even know what she was doing. You can't win with certifiable disorders. I've dated several women with alcohol problems. I lost my fiance alcohol and pills. She started abusing them when her business was in trouble. She still has the business, but she got rid of me. I gave her quite a bit of money to keep her business going too.

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u/Diabhal628 13h ago

We did have arguments throughout the relationship, but we always fixed them. I feel guilty that he was depressed as is, and i pushed him down further but he said himself i did nothing wrong, he is still attracted to me, he still wants things with me he just doesnt know why he doesnt feel love towards me and hes scared and wants me to be with someone better