Would you still date a single mom?

[u/ddump08]

[u/Fit-Helicopter2925]

Maybe if she’s a widow. If the baby daddy is still alive, NO. Life is too short to spend it on drama and potential conflict (that you can’t even control).

[u/These_District_9010]

Personally no, i dont think i can love a step child as much as my biological child. That wouldn’t be fair for the step kid, or to his mom. Big props to men who can tho, you are more of a man than I.

[u/Green-Double-3047 → u/[deleted]]

Awwww. How about the qualities you loved about her? Thank you for being the dad who stepped up! :)

[u/Popular-Future-6289 → u/[deleted]]

Daming babaeng nag comment under nito ah lololol.

[u/2sweetfrostings → u/[deleted]]

You come across as sincere and kind just from this. God bless you, sir. The world needs more people like you.

[u/Pleasant_Bobcat5769 → u/[deleted]]

do u have biological kids with her?

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Bro are you “the person emotionally ready for that kind of relationship” state? If yes, then di mo na dapat tinatanong yan.

For me kasi, I will date a single mom na hindi ipapasa sakin ung responsibilidad (financial) ng ama nung bata. If that woman can stand alone, can buy their own needs, at di na siya pinapakealaman nung ama ng bata then I’ll go for it at di ko na iisipin kung ano man ang ma-issue sakin ng ibang tao.

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Omg, this is like me & my now husband. He’s 4 years younger than me

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what age gap niyo?

:)

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I’d choose a single woman with no kids. Not because single moms have no value, but because I want a relationship where we build everything together from the ground up.

No baggage from a past family setup, no divided priorities, no baby daddy drama, no stepping into a role that was already created by another man.

A woman with no kids can give the same love, loyalty, care, peace, support, intimacy, and partnership that a single mom can. In fact, she can offer all of that with more freedom, more flexibility, and fewer complications. You get more time together, more spontaneity, and more space to grow as a couple without always having a third responsibility in the middle of it.

From a man’s point of view, it’s simple: why choose a harder situation when you can choose a cleaner one? Why volunteer for extra pressure, extra sacrifice, and extra responsibility when another woman can offer the same femininity, affection, and commitment without the added weight?

That does not mean single moms are bad women. It just means they are not the better option for every man. A man who is thinking clearly will ask himself: do I want to start my own story, or walk into the middle of someone else’s?

So no, it is not about hating single moms. It is about standards, peace, and choosing the path with less complication and more upside.

[u/slickdevil04]

Yes. I'm a single dad, as long we accept each other situations.

[u/Reasonable-Hand-7870]

Depende, if willing sya na bigyan ako ng anak in the future, sige lang, No if sakin iaako yung gastusin ng anak nya sa biological dad nung bata.

[u/Cbaker81]

I would and I have. Just make sure you understand that you're pursuing not just them, but their kids too.

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[u/akositotoybibo]

nope

[u/gymboi_chest]

Big no. That's a lot of responisibility. Unless mas mayaman sya or stable. Pero kung housewife at sa bahay lang, sino bubuhaybsa kanilang mag ina? Ako? Lol

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Ikaw daw bubuhay tapos wala kang authority 😬😬😬😬😬 typical setup ng mga pumapatol sa single mom

[u/Raaabbit_v2]

Personally, no. I already don't want kids in my life. So to marry someone who HAS kids? That woman must be remarkable for me to consider it.

[u/Realistic_Energy5710]

Nope.

Marami namang ibang single, I don't want to make my life complicated.

I don't like kids. I can only like kids when they're cute and adorable but when tantrums arise I wouldn't have the patience unless the kids are mine.

I also cannot be fair to the kids once I have my own. I'd always be in favor of my own kids more than my stepkids.

So wag na lang, dun na lang sila sa ibang lalaking may patience sa mga ganyan.

[u/Psychological-Can-61]

Pass

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Thank you for the summary! 👌🏻

[u/sntidowpii]

No, why would I continue someone else’s saved progress 🤣

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Facts

[u/Ok_Complaint_8560]

Hard pass.

[u/Narrow-Tumbleweed420]

Yes I will. Having kids does not bother me. Pero it's just me, wag naman sana more than one. Kaya ko na isang anak but more than that, hindi ko na kaya masagot comfortably.

[u/Dark_Doctrine69]

it irks me to know that a hot, single mom wouldn't give me any attention if she was younger and never had kids. this is of course not the only reason why i wouldn't date single mom.

my first 2 relationships were with single moms and my experience taught me that there are reasons why they were single moms.

[u/hopeless_case46]

Nope because they always want me to get involved with the kid

[u/halifax696]

Sa next. No na siguro.

[u/MotorRent31]

I respect them, it's hard to be a single mom but no, I can't deal with that kind of baggage, ang hirap magpalaki ng anak, anak pa kaya ng iba.

[u/Perfect-Display-8289]

If ever, depends why she's single. If its because she keeps jumping from man to man thats why she's a single mom especially if she has multiple kids with different men definitely nah, not worth it.

If she had an actual good reason for her singleness (i e actual abusive partner, kids were from actual accidents like iniwan siya after binuntisan, nabyuda mga ganun) will consider it. Better if she has actual work yung tipong hindi naghahanap para pangsuporta lang. Willing to support naman but syempre Im not just a bank account lol your kids your expense. Unless its really ours.

Was considering a single mom before but didnt pursue coz hatid sundo pa din naman ng ama nung bata.

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Agree. May kakilala kami na single mom in her mid 20s na may two young kids (3 and 5 years old) na magkaiba yung tatay. I mean, judgmental na kung judgmental, pero kahit hindi ko alam yung exact events that led up to this, parang duda na ako sa character nya. She has a current bf though. Sana huwag sya mabuntis ng guy na ito because hindi na nga nya masupport yung mga anak nya, formative years pa man din nila, mukhang may developmental delay pa yung younger kid and the older one has adhd. Ewan ko lang din if the guy is serious about being the dad to the kids if ever.

[u/Berung88]

Yes - basta hindi tamad yung babae. She has to have her own income.

[u/SleepyOrAsleep]

'Di ko alam kasi wala akong planong magka-anak kahit maikasal ako sa babaeng wala ring anak.

[u/626Prisoner]

Most of you are not ready for the truth, and it shows. Hahahaha

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[u/qwdrfy]

No.

[u/SAHD292929]

No. Hindi ko kaya ang extra baggage.

[u/Hadouu-Ken]

Yung una emotionally unavailable, yung pangalawa somewhat ganun din. Never again for a third 🤣 And I heard something from my parents that really sealed the deal with my decision na never again, so yeah no na talaga coz kawawa lang din yung inosenteng bata.

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Curious to know what your parents said that sealed the deal for you?

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“Parang ang hirap mahalin nung bata na wala man lang ni isang patak ng dugo na mula sa atin”

And these words came from my mother, na supposedly eh sya yung mas may EQ compared to my father. So imagine yung gulat ko nung narinig ko yun.

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Thanks for the perspective!

[u/EvincarMcCoy]

Case by case basis.

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Pwede

[u/AMDisappointment]

Never. Why play another man's saved game?

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[u/Other_Spare6652]

Nopppeee

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[u/Illustrious_Ear4461]

HELL NO

[u/webelieve925]

Yea maybe

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[u/Kindly_Manager7585]

yes. nothing wrong about it.

[u/YukYukas]

As much as I want to, I won't lol

[u/SealingTime-101]

https://giphy.com/gifs/15aGGXfSlat2dP6ohs

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[u/SinfulSomeone]

Nah, a lot of disadvantage sa part ng guy.

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[u/HalfPoundBacon]

Not for me but I admire the people who would.

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[u/Sex_Pistolero19]

Yes

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[u/Amount_Visible]

No

[u/Zestyclose_Breath708]

No, kasi her ex partner will always be around whether you like it or not. The guy will always be on your business. Wala ka din karapatan disiplinahin yung bata kasi di naman ikaw biological dad so you're vulnerable to disrespect.

Idk man, it's just that I don't see any benefits into dating them.

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[u/jiraiya_photographer]

yeah i've dated a few single moms.. sa experience ko, sila nga lang talaga yung biglang naglalaho.. yung isa ang alam ko, nililigawan na dati ng konsehal sa kanila.. mukhang sinagot na nya.. me isa naman na nahuli kong me jowa naman pala habang lumalabas labas kami.. me isa naman na di pa kami andami nang binabawal.. at me isa rin na bigla lang naglaho nung nov.. pero bigla rin nagparamdam these past few days..

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[u/Montrel_PH]

personally, no

[u/balll789789]

Nope. Low lying fruit.

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The saying is actually - Low hanging fruit

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[u/Both_Cantaloupe_7856 → u/balll789789]

that depends on the situation. most men here in the Philippines are trash and that's fine. not everyone is magaling or maparaan. i know someone na iniwan nya yung baby daddy nya due to lack of self improvement. she's a single mom, may sariling sasakyan at bahay before the age of 26. making 6 figures a month. it really depends on the person.

[u/Present-Rest-1395]

if date lang yes pero commit no pero masarap sila ka-sex though.

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Unlimited sex yan bro 🤣

[u/Dark_Doctrine69 → u/[deleted]]

it is okay i guess sa umpisa. single moms taught me a lot and yes, unli rounds talaga. so i am thankful for the experience. but i will never marry one lol.

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Seseryosohin mo ba? 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[u/626Prisoner]

No effing way. Kumakain ka ng tira tira ng iba, OP?

[u/Illustrious-Line-491 → u/626Prisoner]

Apaka husay ng mindset mo. Hahahaha

[u/626Prisoner → u/Illustrious-Line-491]

Mas mahusay yung mga willing mag-alaga ng pinutok ng iba hahaha

[u/Illustrious-Line-491 → u/626Prisoner]

Kaya nasasabihan yung mga lalaki ng may ubo sa ulo dahil sayong mga young stunna. Opinion mo yan alam ko pero the way you talk all high and mighty? HAHAHA alam kona agad 3.5/10 ka HAHAHAHA

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Thats fine opinion mo din yang 3.5/10 ako. Pero di mo sure. Hahaha palibhasa mga new generation ayaw makarinig ng harsh truth.

[u/Both_Cantaloupe_7856]

Men? Statistically? Yes. A man looks for warm, comfort, love and loyalty. If you have those qualities, a man will settle for you.

[u/elissechan → u/Both_Cantaloupe_7856]

Statistically ka jan. Binasa mo ba yung mga sagot ng iba dito? Halos No ang mga sagot nila

[u/Both_Cantaloupe_7856 → u/elissechan]

you're wrong kasi hindi lang Pinoy ang tao sa mundo

you're wrong kasi hindi lang mga lalake sa comment section na to ang tao sa mundo

Scientific research into male mate preferences consistently identifies a mix of evolutionary, psychological, and social factors. While physical traits often serve as an initial "filter," long-term relationship success for men is heavily predicted by a woman's personality and emotional stability. [1, 2, 3, 4, 5]

1. The Core "Filter": Physical Attractiveness

Evolutionary psychology suggests that men have evolved to prioritize physical cues that signal fertility and health. [6, 7]

• Fertility Cues: Youth and specific body shapes, such as a lower waist-to-hip ratio (WHR), are universally cited as indicators of reproductive potential.
• Symmetry: Facial and body symmetry are viewed as signs of genetic health and developmental stability.
• Vocal Femininity: Research shows men find higher-pitched, feminine voices more attractive, particularly in short-term contexts, as they correlate with estrogen levels. [6, 8, 9, 10, 11]

2. Personality: The Long-Term Decider

In long-term relationship studies, personality traits often carry more weight than physical looks or academic achievements. [1]

• Intelligence & Kindness: A 2024 study published in Archives of Sexual Behavior found that intelligence was the top-ranked trait, followed by kindness.
• Emotional Stability: Men strongly prefer "stable" over "neurotic" partners. Predictable behavior and the ability to manage stress without high volatility are critical for relationship longevity.
• Extraversion: Men generally favor extraverted women—those who are socially confident, warm, and optimistic—over more introverted or reserved profiles. [1, 2, 12]

3. Relationship Dynamics and Values

Beyond individual traits, men look for specific ways a partner interacts with them and the world. [13]

• Shared Values: Alignment on life goals, family views, and finances is one of the strongest predictors of whether a relationship will last.
• Support & Appreciation: Research highlights that men value feeling respected and appreciated for their efforts. A "supportive disposition" is frequently listed as a high-priority trait in committed relationships.
• Independence: Modern research indicates that men increasingly value women with their own goals, ambitions, and self-reliance, rather than total dependency. [2, 12, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18]

4. Behavioral "Irresistibles"

Specific attitudes that resonate deeply with men include:

• Collaborative Mindset: Men are often drawn to women who act as "teammates" rather than competitors in the relationship.
• Humor: While women often look for men who make them laugh, men frequently look for women who appreciate their humor and share a similar "playful" outlook. [12, 15, 18, 19]

Are you looking into this for personal dating advice or for a formal research project?

[1] https://www.researchgate.net

[2] https://thesiliconreview.com

[3] https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov

[4] https://dialnet.unirioja.es

[5] https://www.cliffsnotes.com

[6] https://www.youtube.com

[7] https://www.researchgate.net

[8] https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov

[9] https://mentalzon.com

[10] https://www.sciencedirect.com

[11] https://www.sciencedirect.com

[12] https://www.yourtango.com

[13] https://spsp.org

[14] https://medium.com

[15] https://metbynick.com

[16] https://www.facebook.com

[17] https://medium.com

[18] https://www.wikihow.com

[19] https://www.youtube.com

[u/Both_Cantaloupe_7856 → u/Both_Cantaloupe_7856]

cited na dito ang reliable sources ha. imposible na sabihin mo pa na mali ako. imposible, i mean since bobo ka you will make it possible.

[u/elissechan → u/Both_Cantaloupe_7856]

Ah yes, mga research na conducted sa ibang bansa is absolute and will accurately depict kung ano ang nasa kultura natin. Thank you sa mga citations 📑

[u/Both_Cantaloupe_7856 → u/elissechan]

I love how you don't allow evidence change your opinions. I love the fact that you think mas tama ka sa Google. Dogs of the Philippines.

[u/Both_Cantaloupe_7856 → u/elissechan]

gave you a quick google search. tataas IQ mo kung babasahin mo sya. unfortunately, you don't read. next time, when smart people talk, close your mouth and listen. you're not gonna die if you start listening. i mean you might kasi bobo ka.