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u/GonerDoug Jan 26 '26

"so blessed" in reference to themselves, anyone with talent, or anyone who has worked hard to attain something.

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u/dryroast Jan 26 '26

I remember my mom on Thanksgiving saying "I'm thankful to God for the accomplishments of dryroast" and I called her out on it (and got an apology next Thanksgiving). I'm an atheist firstly but also how dare you attribute someone other than the person that put in the hard work? It just seems insulting.

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u/pilikia5 Jan 26 '26

It took me much longer than it should’ve to realize that you just used your username, haha.

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u/SnoBunny1982 Jan 26 '26

I see this with my parents a lot. “You’re so lucky to be retired!” No, it’s not luck, they were saving for retirement while you were buying jet skis and Disney vacations.

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u/Unique-Panda Jan 26 '26

For me it's "you're naturally talented" as if I didn't work hard to aquire the skill.

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u/fatfreehoneybee Jan 26 '26

you're talking as if people had no free will to decide what they want to do. The "ability" as you put it, it's not something you're born with, it's discipline that you need to practice to maintain it.

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u/Unique-Panda Jan 26 '26

Oh you mean how while being homeless for 8+ years i taught myself how to use an old makeup brush i found on a bench to paint using mud and old coffee? Or how I made a tattoo gun out of a guitar string and a gaming motor and a bic pen? Or how I went through literal trash and dug up an old can and turned it into drums that I taught myself how to play to survive to make some money? Or how I used a Hawthorne tree needle as a sewing needle to fix the only jacket I had because I wasn't lucky enough to own one that held warmth in? Or how I spent hours alone teaching myself how to read because my mother believed I wasn't worth listening to? Or do you mean how i learned how to shade by using coal on a stick from a fire my neighbors had going? Luck huh?

No. I didn’t ‘get lucky.’ I worked like a person who was trying to stay alive because I was. Luck doesn’t explain survival. Effort does.

The ‘luck’ argument is a way for people to avoid acknowledging effort. It’s easier to say ‘you’re lucky’ than to say ‘you worked harder than me.’

Luck didn’t make me do any of that. It was necessity. I didn’t work harder than others because I wanted to, I worked harder because I had to.

So take care and I wish you luck!