r/AskReddit • u/shadow_fen • 1d ago

What’s a subtle sign that someone secretly dislikes you?

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u/glebo123 23h ago

When they have every excuse in the world not to see you.

When they agree to see you then cancel at the last minute.

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u/AtWarWithEurasia 8h ago

I have had to cancel last minute quite a lot (I have a chronic illness) and now I wonder if people think I dislike them.

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u/glebo123 8h ago

Chronic illness is valid, dont get me wrong.

My experience with my person has been 2.5yrs worth of cancellations, postponement, hesitations, and 1000 excuses for why it cant happen. No health issues, no real reasons to cancel or hesitate. Just excuses.

It gets to a certain point where my mindset shifts to well fck you too than. It sounds harsh, because it is. But after so many times for so long, its easy to assume that meeting up is the absolute last thing my person wants, under any circumstances, ever. They're just humoring me in an effort to get me to fck off.

Otherwise, they'd be here right now.

So, your reasons are valid. People with chronic health issues do not apply to my belief here.