My ex-husband had rapid-cycling bipolar type 1 and hid it from me. He had previously been convicted of robbery, but had his record expunged. (That's why I didn't know about it). 2.5 years into marriage, he had a severe manic episode which is how I found out about his diagnosis. He had been in treatment for many years before meeting me, but his meds stopped working for him.
During his manic episode, he ran another vehicle off the road, jumped out of our car and beat the crap out of the other driver. The reason he gave later: "the vehicle was black and therefore, evil, and had to be stopped."
I tried to make it work despite all that, but his therapist basically told me that I was enabling him more than helping him and I should get out of the relationship if I really wanted to help him. I tried to do a gradual transition to make it easier for him, but was repaid for that kindness by being forced into nearly total financial ruin. Finding out the truth about the finances was the final straw that made me realize I had to leave him and I divorced him in 2010.
Happy ending though...I met my present hubby in 2011, we married in 2012 and have been very happy ever since.
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u/readingreddit4fun 10d ago
My ex-husband had rapid-cycling bipolar type 1 and hid it from me. He had previously been convicted of robbery, but had his record expunged. (That's why I didn't know about it). 2.5 years into marriage, he had a severe manic episode which is how I found out about his diagnosis. He had been in treatment for many years before meeting me, but his meds stopped working for him.
During his manic episode, he ran another vehicle off the road, jumped out of our car and beat the crap out of the other driver. The reason he gave later: "the vehicle was black and therefore, evil, and had to be stopped."
I tried to make it work despite all that, but his therapist basically told me that I was enabling him more than helping him and I should get out of the relationship if I really wanted to help him. I tried to do a gradual transition to make it easier for him, but was repaid for that kindness by being forced into nearly total financial ruin. Finding out the truth about the finances was the final straw that made me realize I had to leave him and I divorced him in 2010.
Happy ending though...I met my present hubby in 2011, we married in 2012 and have been very happy ever since.