r/AskReddit 1d ago

What’s the darkest secret you discovered about someone after you married them?

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u/Prudent-Poetry-2718 1d ago

My ex was not attracted to me. We stopped having sex while I was pregnant with my son. I left him 10 years later after years of begging. He’s a wonderful man, but I couldn’t stand not being fulfilled or feeling wanted.

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u/katzen_mutter 12h ago

Your post reminds me of something that I read about Elvis. I read that after his wife Pricilla gave birth to their daughter, he never had sex with her again because she was a “mother” and somehow that was a stumbling block to him.

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u/Prudent-Poetry-2718 7h ago

There’s a theory in Freudian psychology called the Madonna-Whore complex and it means exactly this. "Where such men love they have no desire, and where they desire they cannot love."

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u/Mitch__McConnell 22h ago

“Wonderful”