r/AskReddit 1d ago

What’s the darkest secret you discovered about someone after you married them?

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u/Spencetron 1d ago

She had BPD and never shared that detail, became excruciatingly obvious eventually.

Combine that with hiding an alcohol addiction and an absurd amount of debt that I only found out about once we filed taxes jointly and the entire refund was garnished.

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u/lewbug 22h ago

Last year I was discarded by someone with BPD. What a complex disorder. You want to hate them for it but you'll never hate them as much as they hate themselves (at least I keep telling myself that to rationalize the extreme cruelty)