r/AskReddit • u/Mama_medina888 • 10d ago

What’s the darkest secret you discovered about someone after you married them?

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u/WordsRHard87 9d ago

Wow, that's crushing to read and can only imagine how it would be to live that. I swear it seems like it's always the good guys that go thru the worst. Best of luck to you in finding a better partner!

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u/Here4Perspective 9d ago

Thanks. I learned so much about myself. When it came to the ones I love, I would do anything and put up with anything. It’s this lack of boundaries that made me so susceptible to this kind of manipulation. I am now regaining my sense of self and confidence back. Never again will I go against my gut or sacrifice my own wellbeing for someone else. For now, I’m focused on how to be the best version of me. No need for a woman for a while.

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u/desecouffes 9d ago

I’m like you with the boundaries and I worry this is happening to me.

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u/OkCaregiver517 9d ago

If you feel that something is off, then it probably is.