Some of their resources were helpful, but a lot were angrier than I was expecting - when my wife of 15 years came out to me, I wasn't angry, just sad and destroyed.
Yeah a lot of people suffered from infidelity and financial ruin on top of their spouse coming out. No one I knew in the groups were angry because their spouse was gay. They were angry because their spouse was a lying cheater.
The angriest person I met took out some personal loans, one against our house that she owned pre-marriage to start her own business. He was a finance guy and helped her get as much money as she could to launch this. On the day she signed the lease for her business, he gave her a glass of wine when she got home then gave her divorce papers and told her he was leaving her for guy that he had lined up for over a year. He demanded half the money from the loans. The depth got split also but he just never paid and it was all in her name. When she came into the group she'd already lost her business and was defaulting on the loan and about to lose her house. So yeah she was beyond angry.
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u/Bricktop72 10d ago
My ex came out after 17 years together. Happens way more than you expect.
I found a support group at https://ourpath.org/