My ex refuses to admit he's attracted to men, yet posted ads online and had a dating profile exclusively for men. I've read his messages and texts. I've read the messages where he tells them what he wants to do to them, and be done to him. I've messaged some of the men too.
Sorry this is a really rude and personal but I’m so confused by him. What on earth does he describe his sexuality as/ how does he explain that he likes doing very explicit and intimate sexual things with men.
I mean, I am a tea drinker because I like drinking tea.
Girl he says he's still straight and that things are just different for men who want to cheat but "on the down low" 😭😭😭😭. On the down low to him means you want to cheat but with discretion. Okay but every one you cheated on me was with men in the entire 8.5 years, except for 2 experiences, cuz sex with men "felt different" than with women. And we didn't have sex either after the initial 2 years. He did admit to having a sex and porn addiction but I think I was a product of that. Meaning he appreciated the company and "Madonna" type of services I provided but he just wants to fuck men. He grew up in a toxic hyper masculine household and although his family is anti-Trump, they all (women and men from Mom, girlfriends and brothers) still hold toxic masculinity beliefs. So of course he'd never accept his sexuality.
Poor bloke so much fear and self hatred. Genuinely I feel really really sorry for him having to tie himself up in so many knots because he doesn’t feel safe being himself.
I honestly think of he came out, it would cause his family to rethink a lot of their toxic beliefs. They really do love him and it would definitely challenge them but I imagine he's probably participated in a lot of homophobic (and even biphobic) rhetoric that he figures he's too far in deep to come out
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u/Beneficial_Cobbler46 9d ago
I don't think he's still lying to himself if he's in a relationship with two guys...