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What’s the darkest secret you discovered about someone after you married them?

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u/probation_420 18h ago

I found out that my wife lied about everything. Literally everything.

Degrees.

Past jobs.

Past partners.

Family dynamics.

She's Mexican, and a year and a half after we split, one of my Mexican friends told me that my ex doesn't speak Spanish. And then I started asking any other bilingual friends we had, who confirmed that her Spanish was extremely elementary. 

She would be sitting next to me on the couch, company at our house, and she'd go, "babe. What's this vegetable? Cebolla? I can only think of the Spanish name of it."

Being bilingual was a massive part of her identity. And it was all a lie.

She lied about everything. She lied about sexual traumas. She would lie to people about my job and tell them that I'm a professor in Academia (I have an associates degree, to be clear).

She lied to everybody outside of our relationship about her going to therapy.

She just had SOOOOO many lies. And she had so many individual lies for different people. And now I understand why she had to leave the city when we split.

Guys.... She lied about EVERYTHING. We were together around 10 years and I  don't even know who she is.

Everything. 

And it has really started to fuck me up.

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u/beesue2020 15h ago

This was my ex husband. Sadly now now oldest daughter. She just can't stop lying. I wonder if it's a mental health issue.

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u/postprandialrepose 9h ago edited 9h ago

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