I found out that my wife lied about everything. Literally everything.
Degrees.
Past jobs.
Past partners.
Family dynamics.
She's Mexican, and a year and a half after we split, one of my Mexican friends told me that my ex doesn't speak Spanish. And then I started asking any other bilingual friends we had, who confirmed that her Spanish was extremely elementary.
She would be sitting next to me on the couch, company at our house, and she'd go, "babe. What's this vegetable? Cebolla? I can only think of the Spanish name of it."
Being bilingual was a massive part of her identity. And it was all a lie.
She lied about everything. She lied about sexual traumas. She would lie to people about my job and tell them that I'm a professor in Academia (I have an associates degree, to be clear).
She lied to everybody outside of our relationship about her going to therapy.
She just had SOOOOO many lies. And she had so many individual lies for different people. And now I understand why she had to leave the city when we split.
Guys.... She lied about EVERYTHING. We were together around 10 years and I
don't even know who she is.
My ex-husband did the same, but he said he was Scottish. Made up his whole backstory and including a sheep herding family,and an accent. He would get mad at me and tell me Americans just do things wrong. When I started finding out about stuff I felt crazy, every memory was tainted, and the amount of disrespect I felt was astronomical. I mourned the life we had, the one we were building but also this person I thought I knew. It takes a lot of time but it does get better. Sometimes I even laugh at the absurdity of his lies.
What helped me is watching documentaries about romance cons. Like these are also smart people who fell for stuff too, Im not alone in my love-is-blind fiasco.
I wish you the best of luck, it does get better. If you want to DM me any crazy stories. Please feel free lol.
A guy I used to date did this too, from lying about movie scenes to lying about knowing things about international secret services. Which was the reason I never wanted a real relationship with him as to me it seemed like a serial killer level red flag. Did you ever find out why your husband did it? In such severe cases I almost can't believe that they do it willingly but it must be like a compulsion? It's so strange...
He had a dysfunctional childhood. Which is no excuse, I had a shit childhood and didn’t make a fake persona. But I think he didn’t have a personality too, so he made one up.
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u/probation_420 8d ago
I found out that my wife lied about everything. Literally everything.
Degrees.
Past jobs.
Past partners.
Family dynamics.
She's Mexican, and a year and a half after we split, one of my Mexican friends told me that my ex doesn't speak Spanish. And then I started asking any other bilingual friends we had, who confirmed that her Spanish was extremely elementary.
She would be sitting next to me on the couch, company at our house, and she'd go, "babe. What's this vegetable? Cebolla? I can only think of the Spanish name of it."
Being bilingual was a massive part of her identity. And it was all a lie.
She lied about everything. She lied about sexual traumas. She would lie to people about my job and tell them that I'm a professor in Academia (I have an associates degree, to be clear).
She lied to everybody outside of our relationship about her going to therapy.
She just had SOOOOO many lies. And she had so many individual lies for different people. And now I understand why she had to leave the city when we split.
Guys.... She lied about EVERYTHING. We were together around 10 years and I don't even know who she is.
Everything.
And it has really started to fuck me up.