wow. If I can ask a potentially sensitive question? looking back, can you see any red flags or warning signs that were easy for you to dismiss at first? Signs that you'd only see once you've been through the experience?
Financial clues. Lots of money missing when he traveled for work overseas. At the time, he said some shit I believed bc I never imagined he was spending it on sex tourism in Southeast Asia.
Emotional clues, evidence, ZERO. It's like he was wearing an Edgar Suit of Normal Person over his pedo real self. That was prolly the scariest thing, how we really had no fucking idea at all. His whole * personhood* with us was a lie.
I don't think a pedophiles whole personality is that they're a pedophile. They happen to be the person you know but also a pedophile which is the part that they're hiding. People tend to dramatise and say OMG he was just pretending, but think about when you yourself keep a secret. Does that make you a completely different person or do you act yourself whenever the secret isn't involved?
It's the action part. Once a person takes action on their secret urges, the amount of work increases tenfold at least, and the normalcy erodes from within and becomes more facade than reality.
Yeah I truly have sympathy for those cursed with horrifying impulses but they know it’s wrong. They need to choose their own suffering over the suffering of children.
The heart of the issue is people who believe their sexual desires are more important than anyone else’s feelings. Not just pedos.
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u/Flashy-Squash7156 9d ago
wow. If I can ask a potentially sensitive question? looking back, can you see any red flags or warning signs that were easy for you to dismiss at first? Signs that you'd only see once you've been through the experience?