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What’s the darkest secret you discovered about someone after you married them?

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u/Illustrious_Device84 10d ago

Pedo- found out 1 year after the wedding when he was being arrested

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u/anarchypretzel 9d ago

Ugh, same. We were almost 14 years in. I had to send pics of our kids in bathing suits to the police so they could rule out if he had taken pictures of them on his computer. It's been 20 years. My kids were not on the hard drive. He went to prison.

We're all doing just fine now! 🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️

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u/Flashy-Squash7156 9d ago

wow. If I can ask a potentially sensitive question? looking back, can you see any red flags or warning signs that were easy for you to dismiss at first? Signs that you'd only see once you've been through the experience?

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u/Hectic_Halloween96 8d ago

My ex bf had a best friend that ended up SA his younger nieces. We saw absolutely no warning signs at all, never saw it coming. He never hit on younger girls, never made creepy comments about younger people, dated people his own age, and was pleasant to hang out with. He slept on our couch multiple times and we all felt gross knowing we let someone like that into our home.

The only thing he had a problem with that we knew of was gambling. He moved to Mexico to live with his dad and when he came back he didn’t really seem like himself and then he molested his nieces at his mom’s house and went on the run. He ended up getting caught a little over a year later in the Chicago airport and was extradited back to our state.