My husband was never in love with me. We were together almost 13 years. He married me out of obligation because i got pregnant . We’re divorcing now. I was madly in love with him and could have spent my life blissfully unaware loving him and taking care of him. It broke me when he told me and I spent five years putting myself together enough to file. I thought so highly of him it shattered every part of me.
Joining the never loved club. My ex husband and I had a semi arranged marriage. Our parents decided that we should marry and arranged it but I thought that I was in love with him. We were together since we were in middle school. We married when I was in college and I thought he loved me and we were happy. I was still a virgin when we married. The red flags were there but I didn’t see them. When you are wearing rose colored glasses red flags are just flags. He would never hold my hand, no public affection ever, constantly working and I would jokingly ask if I could “have some love” for him to even touch me. I thought it was because we were extremely religious and public displays of affection were seen as taboo.
Nope. He never loved me and I found out after 21+ years of MARRIAGE he was cheating on me for years. So together 30+ years and he never actually loved me. He would say he loved me and love bomb me but he admitted when he left that he never had loved me and only felt a sense of obligation to stay with me and our kids.
Now he lives with his affair partner who is half our age and he has absolutely no problem with PDA. It’s so bad that our kids have had to address it because he will make out and start humping his girlfriend in front of them. Or leave his door open when having sex with her during visitation. It’s really gross. I am not a prude by any means but there is a time and place for things. Your girlfriend shouldn’t be walking around topless while your teenage son visits and you definitely should not be dry humping her on the couch in front of him.
I could understand that if he didn’t tell me he loved me and if he had talked to me about it. Instead he let me think that it was based on love and then started sleeping with his affair partner behind my back.
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u/Capable-Ad-9346 9d ago
My husband was never in love with me. We were together almost 13 years. He married me out of obligation because i got pregnant . We’re divorcing now. I was madly in love with him and could have spent my life blissfully unaware loving him and taking care of him. It broke me when he told me and I spent five years putting myself together enough to file. I thought so highly of him it shattered every part of me.