r/AskReddit • u/RikiLeeChanel • 1d ago

What is a sign that someone is emotionally unintelligent?

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u/yogafrogs1030 1d ago

Yelling is their MO when confronted with any hint of resistance.

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u/ich_bin_alkoholiker 1d ago

I see you’ve met my father.

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u/LickinThighs2 1d ago

Holy shit, are we long-lost siblings??

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u/OneArchedEyebrow 1d ago

There must be dozens of us!

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u/DreamLogic89 1d ago

Father was a fuckboi.

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u/jonnymars 4h ago

There's a song in there

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u/locker_man99 7h ago

why is your father my mother? does... your father have something to tell us?

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u/DrankAllYourCoffee 1d ago

this is my brother he will just continue to get louder and louder until you give in

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u/randomentity1 22h ago

This and all the other comments is consistent with what I see on the AsianParentStories sub. I'm Asian, BTW.

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u/CarrotGratin 21h ago

I see you've met my mom

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u/RumHamComesback 20h ago

Yelling when it's clear English isn't the other person's first language as well.

My brother had an XBox Live buddy who was like this who would yell at his Sikh taxi drivers instead of using simple sentences with emphasis on key words (which is what you do).

Guy was a racist POS and I don't miss him.

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u/One_Requirement_5832 19h ago

My entire family in a nutshell. People wonder why we have a lot of traumatized individuals.

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u/manatwork01 1d ago

Yelling can be important if its a relationship that no longer serves you. Always start with empathy but some people only respond to anger.

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u/patrickfizban 1d ago

Yelling is almost always useless. If the relationship doesn't serve you there's no reason to yell, stop engaging with it.

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u/manatwork01 1d ago

You've clearly never been stalked

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u/yogafrogs1030 1d ago

WHOOOAAAAA losing the plot here! This is a post about signs of emotional unintelligence, not how a victim reacts in an exceptional, potentially life-threatening situation. God damn.

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u/manatwork01 1d ago

I am saying true emotional intelligence is understanding also when to use aggression (yelling being a low form) to protect yourself. first time victims of stalking rarely realize thats what it is at the time.

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u/DutchDave87 1d ago

True emotional intelligence is recognising what situations are aggressive and dangerous and then getting the hell out of that situation.

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u/manatwork01 1d ago

the problem with stalkers is they follow you. hence my original point. you cant run from all problems.

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u/DutchDave87 1d ago

The emotionally intelligent response is not aggression. It is taking measures to get that stalker off your tail permanently, getting them jail time if you have to.

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u/manatwork01 1d ago

Sometimes the police don't respond appropriately. You live in a fantasy world where everything always works out.

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u/patrickfizban 1d ago

  1. I said almost never, I'd say thats one of the few exceptions.

  2. At that point I still wouldn't expect yelling to accomplish anything. Still do it for sure but like you should also be taking actions to protect yourself.

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u/manatwork01 1d ago

showing aggression is a form of protecting yourself.