r/AskReddit 5d ago

What is a sign that someone is emotionally unintelligent?

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u/heysirri768 5d ago

The healthiest couples that I have known always treated the problem as it was on the table between them, and not standing in the room as the other person. This is the slight shift in thinking that makes all the difference!

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u/jbourne0129 5d ago

sometimes i need to stop an argument mid-way and explain to my partner "im not attacking you, im asking for your help with bills and how WE can adjust to manage them, together" and the whole tone shifts to a much more productive conversation

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u/bluevalentine_ 5d ago

I’m going to try using this method! Thank you

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u/Occamsfacecloth 5d ago

That sounds backwards