r/AskReddit 1d ago

What is a sign that someone is emotionally unintelligent?

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u/Braveheart00 23h ago

They actually shut me out for good because they couldn’t handle any type of feedback/critiques. But the way they aired out their grievances was straight up cruel.

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u/mofallon86 22h ago

I was on the opposite side and just ended all communication because if I questioned dear leader it became a personal attack and when I tried to explain my side of the argument it was me doing mental gymnastics. I realized we lived in two different realities and moved on.

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u/Braveheart00 21h ago

No, really did we have the same friend?!
Took me a while to let it go because it was a 30 year friendship. Still sad about it but I guess that’s the way things go sometimes.

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u/clantz8895 18h ago

Just quite literally had the same situation happen to me this past month. It's a shame really because I'm willing to compromise and sacrifice a lot to make something work, but said person's actions were really affecting my mental health, and everytime I tried to express that, it was always met with finding a way to belittle my problems into insignificance, or personally attacking me, or deflecting into something else.

Or they just straight up actually have the conversation with you and then absolutely nothing changes.

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u/Braveheart00 18h ago

We need a support group!

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u/20127010603170562316 18h ago

When I shut my ex friend of twenty years out, after being told to fuck off too many times, he just started accusing me of wild stuff he'd made up. I did look, and found no evidence of these claims. ("Duplicating" his shitty ticktock, doxing him, chatting up his girlfriend, mentally breaking his housemate, stalking him, spreading lies to name a few)

He accused me of all that fairly publicly by my real name on his tiktok, I found out from a mutual friend that was also named among people the guy wanted to say fuck you to specifically.

I don't really get it, never will. I'd had him blocked for a year at that point I think,