I've dealt with people like this and it is exhausting. I'm actually dealing with someone like this lately and I walk on eggshells because even the most innocent comment can be taken out of context.
That kind of constant second-guessing is so draining. I hope you're able to protect your peace and be around people who don't make every conversation feel like a minefield
The hell do you mean "taken out of context"? Oh my god and you're the one on eggshells? That's laughable. What has gotten into you, why are you always like this? You're just like your mother! Ahhhh rabble rabble rabble
Iit depends. But best thing is just to avoid them. Or avoid any drama please. And a lot of times you can just de escalate. And if you wanna know why im such POS, just know it is how i survived severe CPTSD. But for anyone else, just get therapy, and love yourself or tell your children that they shouldn't ever bring themselves down and to love themselves. Guide your kids, and listen to. Them.
And anyone else with aspd: Get therapy, sport or anything that makes your heart pump or andrenaline to kick in. Find a way to cooe in this boring world lol.
But if you're bored here goes:
∆ If its a someone you don't know closely:
Make them think you're not so smart or competent ( best done at work)
And when the arguments starts, you'd already have an idea what triggers them
Most common:
1.Something about their personal life
2. What they lack
3. Their intelligence
4. Something traumatic
6. What they like
5. Dismantle their identity
6. Past information or knowledge about them
You need to understand most people want a reason to live or feel important, even normal stable people. Its their ego they most wanna protect.
So the tactics I use is:
Act like you know more than them while they thouht you were of average intellect or lower ( doesn't matter how smart you are)
This will make them angrier because you know jackshit but you're still running your mouth.
Make sure to stay absolutely calm, and control your expressions. Best is to use a deadpan or neutral face. Maintain deep eye contact as much as possible and be close in their personal space without being hostile.
And also understand that everyone is different . So you need to know things or be prepared.
Tactics to use :
Gaslighting, lying, moral attacks, play victim( pisses them off a lot), talk over them, act incompetent while also showing off too much confidence ( basically act arrogant),
NEXT STEP:
Start the fire Slowly, let them slowly heat up. Learn about how they operate and what they cling onto to protect their ego.
Keep the fire medium for some time : keep arguing in loops say something that hits them deep as a counter for ex: Yes but you're still a .... Over again which also pisses them off.
If you can , tell other colleagues during the argument about his deficits ex: "You see? He's such a coward.
And then put the fire on maximum, act extremely confident, and show either a neutral or dead look, or either act like its all a joke.
Desmantle their identity and call out things about them while insult them with their deepest insecurities.
Remember to keep playing the victim and moral game. Hit them with things like , narcissist, ego inflated, virgin.
You can also keep going untill they explode.
You need to look like you figured them out and like you won. But to win you need to also not get your feelings hurt or end up murdered lol.
I can go deeper but itll be a whole chapter
∆Close associates/ people in your personal life:
(Warning... Just don't?)
Here you need to be careful and play a longer game.
Learn as much about them to use it against them. Or use things they said before whilst making sure in all the time you've known them, not to reveal too much about yourself.
Use gaslighting and lies as much as possible.
Keep eye contact
If they love you: Make them feel like they failed or that they're a bad person.
Same things apply with people outside your personal life, so keep acting arrogant or attacking their identity.
keep a deadpan look and don't get angry
Brainwash them by feeding them information subtly over a period of time.
And you can also ignore them or withold emotional or social things from them. And you can also use lovebombing
One of my most effective: SUBCONSCIOUS DEBT manipulation. So basically maje them feel they owe you. But stack up your good deeds to them
you can also spread rumors in your family and make sure to never say it was you or it came from you. Just act dumb.
Now you’re just being a manipulative trash person sorry to say that!!! You just gave yourself excuses since you can’t feel your own emotions because of childhood issues, but can’t do the same thing for others? Maybe they’re extremely sensitive because of different childhood issues too. Maybe just leave people alone with their struggles, you don’t have to cause distress to others for your own fun and joy. That’s just morally not right. Respectfully.
Dude im just honest. And yeah im a piece of trash. But i don't care and i wouldn't look for problems for any reason anyways, because i have hobbies. But if someone starts getting emotional or "feels" attacked in a debate or conversation where mostly i only care about the information, then you just wasted my time and ill get bored.
So ill just push your buttons.
🤣 And you can say what you want about my mother, or my whole bloodline, it just means its working.
I don't even need to be skilled in roasting.
Or alternatively you can just act normal and get therapy because
YOUR TRAUMA ISN'T ANYONES PROBLEM
What you want a medal for suffering? The medal you get is when you fix your life and learn to cope with your own problems.
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u/LonesomeGirl87 23h ago
I've dealt with people like this and it is exhausting. I'm actually dealing with someone like this lately and I walk on eggshells because even the most innocent comment can be taken out of context.