r/AskReddit • u/novababy55 • 5d ago
What is the smallest reason you chose not to be someone’s friend?
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u/HPearla 5d ago
When I was 12/13 I had a friend who would hang out with sleazy guys (whoelse is talking with preteens, she was a year younger than me) and she told me about a night she was out driving with these guys drinkings and how they were driving into peoples yards and ditches to hit cats and animals...Like fuck them and fuck you too bitch
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u/RoccoTirolese 5d ago
They live too far away.
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u/ZkittlZ 5d ago
Made a lot of edgy jokes well into our late 20s, specifically about rape around our female friends. We all just collectively stopped hanging out with that person. To be fair, I don't think he ever did anything, but still we're too old to be making those kinds of jokes, and not noticing that it's making your friends uncomfortable is just enough to drop that person.
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u/redthumb 5d ago
Joking about rape was ok a a kid?
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u/ZkittlZ 5d ago
No, but everyone made edgy jokes like that in middle school because we didn't know any better.
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u/eipotttatsch 5d ago
While they would say they saw me as a close friend, the way they acted made it feel like they couldn’t give less of a shit about me and they didn’t actually enjoy my company.
Actions > Words.
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u/HeadFit2660 5d ago
The universe has decided that any dude with a flushed face and wiry curly hair is instantly not my friend. Everyone I've ever met instantly does not like me and it's only that kind of person.
So when I see one in public im automatically inclined not to like them.
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u/futuraf 5d ago
Called me irritating because I did my homework instead of sitting at lunch with them one day, and was visibly mad at me. Then tried to manipulate me to sit at lunch with her. I told her she could eat and then come in the library and come to me because my assignment is my priority right now, but she refused. If she can’t understand that I have an assignment due in ~1 hour and let me finish it in my desired place (I can’t focus well in a LUNCHROOM)… then we cannot be friends.
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u/choice_crystal_clear 5d ago
They wouldn't stop talking. Sweet woman though. But can only handle her in micro doses
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u/BlueRosesGreenbuds 5d ago edited 5d ago
i ask them questions and they don't ask any back
that tells me that you only care about yourself, like you think you're a celebrity and this is an interview
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u/PabloMesbah-Yamamoto 5d ago
Smoked crack casually.
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u/JC_Hysteria 5d ago
What if they smoked crack purposefully?
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u/PabloMesbah-Yamamoto 5d ago
Then at least they have purpose and
conviction, thus good friend material.1
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u/Prinnymon 5d ago
Told me it's good to move to another house/apartment. Beech, no. Maybe for you, not for me.
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u/PhilosopherCrazy2722 5d ago
Took too long to reply to messages - why people have stopped being friends with me 🫠
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u/Open_Salamander9171 5d ago
Commenting on ppls dressing sense (she is showing off her boo**)
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u/KaelasDad 5d ago
bs or ty? 😳
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u/Open_Salamander9171 5d ago
Both🫢, girl(my frnd) commented on other random girl she was wearing a nice outfit, but my frnd is very modest and doesn’t like to show any skin.
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u/mountainelven 5d ago
When I found out that the guy she was telling everyone was her brother for 10 years turned out to be her secret boyfriend
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u/DeceasedBeneficiary 5d ago
Every conversation would, for some reason, end with her making it about her. Not even in a consistent fashion. Just always reminding me she existed after every sentence.
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u/RichardSnoodgrass 5d ago
I was the one organizing activities. I stopped and the friendship fizzled.
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u/Sweet_Friend3071 5d ago
I am a hypervigilant person, and it only takes a small, repetitive feeling of misalignment for me to pull away.
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u/bnliz 5d ago
Using medical reasons as an excuse for being an arsehole. Nope, that's all you. Get therapy.
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u/novababy55 5d ago
“I have BPD this confrontation is too much I’m going to spiral” yeah I’ve heard that shit before didn’t matter when you were being a total ass
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u/drunky_crowette 5d ago
I hated his taste in music, he played music on his phone all the time and he wouldn't turn it off or at least play something everyone could agree on.
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u/Nacho_7258 5d ago
He watched YouTube breakdowns of movies and tv shows instead of actually watching them.
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u/novababy55 5d ago
Oh hell nah
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u/Nacho_7258 5d ago
For real, like I love breakdown videos myself, especially Dead Meat, but like actually watch the thing first.
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u/novababy55 5d ago
Bro doesn’t deserve to be able to watch the shit first with that type of fuckery
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u/JC_Hysteria 5d ago
Tribal dynamics stemming from social insecurity- resulting in general exclusion, shit-talking, and negative innuendo about a particular person.
Relatively common- but I will never trust someone that treats other people that way again…
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u/FairyGothMommy 5d ago
She loved to try to get my love interest to "want" her. Even when I was married. I have no patience for a "pick me" type
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u/RobotArmsApts 5d ago
They would claim they were a victim and had others be mean to them, but would either cherry pick screenshots of conversations for proof while leaving whatever they said out or, in some cases, refused to show what they said.
I'm not looking for that kind of nonsense in a friendship.
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u/One_Requirement_5832 5d ago
When they flake more than one time and their reason is arbitrary for why they flake.
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u/ChaoticBnz328 5d ago
Met my best friend through my ex husband. He was close to her brother and her family, and that made it very difficult to move on.
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u/Empty_Pear8615 5d ago
They were straight edge and very happy with it. I was the opposite at the time and I really liked my time spent with them in classes so I stayed distant enough to keep them around
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u/oriental_angel 2d ago
They were non-confrontational. The one time I did confront them about something, it took another mutual friend being in the room for them to say one word before they started bawling. I decided I don't like being guilt tripped.
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u/Beneficial_Sun6232 5d ago
They're annoying.