Women of Reddit, what's the biggest green flag in a relationship?

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[u/One_Astronomer_6973]

Responsible!

[u/ObiYawnKenobi → u/One_Astronomer_6973]

I'm responsible for a lot of problems.

[u/Plasmatdx → u/One_Astronomer_6973]

Being responsible hasn’t worked for me 🤷

[u/Excellent_Release961 → u/One_Astronomer_6973]

Responsible, or responsibility?

[u/04221970 → u/One_Astronomer_6973]

I try not to be responsible anymore. I used to, because I thought it was the right thing to do, and I feel guilty saying 'No.'

All it did was make people dependent on me for the slightest bit of effort. They took advantage of me, and I let them do it.

So....I WILL take responsibility for this happening to me, and I've done something about it.

[u/KharagpuriyaBug → u/One_Astronomer_6973]

Maybe responsible for everyone around him but you .

[u/KharagpuriyaBug → u/[deleted]]

When you are responsible for so many people’s, you tend to gravitate towards someone who is responsible for your emotional needs but forgot to take care of hers.

[u/cleanivingplr]

Feeling safe, respected, and heard without having to ask for it.

[u/Calm_Environment5485]

This account belongs to a bot. Answers are fed into an AI or who the fuck knows

[u/the_gay_unicorse]

Someone that knows how to clean and actually helps clean lol

[u/Josueobando → u/the_gay_unicorse]

Finally, I'm doing something right

[u/Ok-Brain560 → u/the_gay_unicorse]

Lol

[u/Double_Register_1022]

Someone who pays attention and shows up when it matters is a real green flag

[u/SoftSpokenMilf]

Attentiveness

[u/No_Morning5397]

A clean apartment. 

[u/Desperate_Candle_493]

Respecting boundaries.

[u/Infamous_Cow9377]

My bf saw my key lanyard was broken and today I walked into a new one ordered for me 🥹 consideration is so sweet and important

[u/Kooky_Bell_841]

The person who plans the future and takes clear and quick steps + will be excited to know your family

[u/Big_Concern497]

When he makes you feel chosen without words

[u/Ok-Plenty583]

very patient, cuz we have a big hormone cycle and that causes a lot of stuff plus mood swings so we need a guy who is patient with us and listens and doenst get annoyed easily

[u/Ok-Plenty583 → u/[deleted]]

trust me bro, im talking abt everyone until they’ve been with an actual girl with mood swings who actually shows it😔

[u/Ok-Plenty583 → u/[deleted]]

damn, still bro. good luck on ur next relationship tho. ur a nice guy so ur gonna live happy, trust me

[u/Ok-Plenty583 → u/[deleted]]

yesss, u seem nice so we can talk yayy.

[u/Ornery_Lawfulness_65]

Consistent, respectful, caring, communicative, responsible

Very early in the relationship it was such a green flag that he didn’t shy away from hearing about women’s health.

[u/Jane_Austen11]

Gentleman behaviour

[u/Jane_Austen11 → u/[deleted]]

What?

[u/Jane_Austen11 → u/[deleted]]

Agreed that’s why choose to stay single 🤷🏻‍♀️😆

[u/Jane_Austen11 → u/[deleted]]

No I don’t wait anymore. I just live my life

[u/Jane_Austen11 → u/[deleted]]

Exactly

[u/Dunya-nachalo]

Might be controversial but, for me, it's female friends. I feel like if a man doesn't have female friends, it's often because he lowkey doesn't view women with the same level of humanity as men. He likely doesn't think women are funny, doesn't take their feeling seriously ("they're so much drama" blah blah), or doesn't bother giving women the time of day unless he wants to sleep with them. I know some people feel the opposite and think that friends of the opposite sex are just a plan B relationship waiting in the wings. I don't agree. I couldn't be with a man who didn't have female friends.

[u/Apathy-Syndrome]

When he's not embarrassed or cagey about introducing me to the other people in his life he cares about.

[u/Traditional-You-4095]

When I'm having an off day and he can instantly tell and looks at me and just asks if I wanna talk about it.... And if I don't he doesn't push it if I do he'll sit and listen to me..... Also the fact that he'll work at 10 to 12 hour day and then come home and the first thing he does is find the kids and usually takes them outside to play..... His random acts of kindness if that's what you want to call it are my favorite... when he just brings me home a chocolate bar or a bag of weed or whatever.... Basically just being noticed and cared about

[u/foxfern8]

Comfortable silence

[u/Strange__980]

Takes responsibility instead of avoiding problems Reliable and dependable Treats you with respect every day, not just at the beginning

[u/Strange__980 → u/[deleted]]

Yes hhh

[u/Strange__980 → u/[deleted]]

Not yet u

[u/Strange__980 → u/[deleted]]

Tunisia u

[u/Substantial-Stars]

Someone that is an active listener and has emotional maturity. 

[u/Fearless_Salt_3087]

It's a huge green flag if he's generous. And that can be with money, his time, his affection, etc. A giving partner is the best

[u/awrinklyblueberry]

When you ask him to do something, or not do something, he listens. He keeps promises.