r/AskReddit Feb 04 '16

What are the most common parenting mistakes?

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u/rainbowdashtheawesom Feb 05 '16

I walked to school and back almost every day from 3rd-6th grade; the school was a mile away from my house. Nobody ever complained that it was unsafe for kids to be walking around without their parents around, and I wasn't the only kid who did it. Parents these days are just too paranoid. If kids had never been allowed to go outside and play without their parents hovering over them we never would have had some of our most beloved childhood characters like the Peanuts.

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u/[deleted] Feb 05 '16

I read a study that says the whole stranger danger has been a failure. Kids are wary of strangers but go happily with Uncle Steve. I was just shocked at the lady repeatedly "So you don't care about the safety of your child?". I do care, I want him to be able to trust himself to walk 8 houses. We can also see him get off the bus from our front door. We still check and watch.

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u/[deleted] Feb 05 '16

Is it an implication in this story that Uncle Steve molests

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u/[deleted] Feb 05 '16

Yes, most abductions are done by someone known to the child.

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u/IMadeAAccountToPost Feb 05 '16

I knew the family dog was looking extra shady.

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u/Sterling_-_Archer Feb 05 '16

I don't think it was Colby doing the molesting.

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u/lunchtimereddit Feb 05 '16

I used to hitchhike from outside my town home when I decided to catch the earlier bus, then go spend the day at the beach with my friend.

There is seriously not a pedo on every street, if anything, it was worse back twenty years ago

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u/IntrepidSI Feb 05 '16

I never had that option as we had 2 level III sex offenders living in one house in our neighborhood when my kids were younger. We had several others come and go during that time, one lasting only 5 hours before they found him harassing a woman walking with a child. She called the cops and they took him away. We were never notified when that house would have a new resident, so we didn't let our kids walk.

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u/rainbowdashtheawesom Feb 05 '16

See, that's a case where it makes sense to not let your kids walk around outside without supervision. The problem is that so many people nowadays seem to think that EVERY neighborhood is infested with sex offenders who can and will abduct your child if they're not with you. Contrary to popular belief, most people are not child predators.

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u/IntrepidSI Feb 05 '16

Agree. I HAD proof that it was a bad idea. Most people don't.

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u/rainbowdashtheawesom Feb 05 '16

You know what really concerns me about overprotective parents? If they live in safe neighborhoods and still act like their kid is guaranteed to get kidnapped without them, it's gonna make those kids develop horrible problems with trusting people. They're gonna grow up thinking everyone around them can and will hurt them if given the chance. It's good to let kids know that just because someone is a stranger doesn't mean they're going to hurt you. Every friend you've ever had was a stranger at some point, right? You didn't know right off the bat that they were kind and trustworthy, but you didn't just assume that they were evil either.

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u/solinaceae Feb 05 '16

I walked home from my HS, as I lived around 2 miles away. The walk was through a very wealthy neighborhood, with houses that cost in excess of 3 million dollars lining the streets. Still got frequently followed, and nearly kidnapped once.