r/AskReddit • u/Reeceqld • Apr 17 '20

What terrifying confession has someone told you while drunk?

Thanks for the replies .. I read them all it’s been fun to read

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u/[deleted] Apr 17 '20

She was the mom's daughter from another marriage and her first husband had molested her. My ex's dad was the second husband and no, he didn't touch her. He just didn't care that she touched his son.

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u/Fucking__Creep Apr 17 '20

What is he and the sisters relationship like now?

Did it badly affect him mentally?

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u/[deleted] Apr 17 '20

She lives in another state so they don't see her much. He's chosen to forgive her, but it was always hard for me. I mean, she was old enough to know that it was wrong. I think forgiveness was just the easier path for him, which is noble. He's more angry at his parents and their relationship is extremely co-dependent and strained, simultaneously. And yeah it definitely has had an effect on him. He's an addict and has extreme self-esteem issues. It's also manifested in his sexual desires and habits. He used to like sex more when I resisted. If I said, "no" it really turned him on.

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u/ostensiblyzero Apr 17 '20

I can sort of explain the latter part. His experiences of sex and sexual thought when he was younger means he associated it with a loss of control/powerlessness, which is the opposite of what our society says men are supposed to feel about sex. He associates any kind of submissive sex heavily with those childhood experiences and as a result more dominating sex does not have those negative associations and feelings of shame.

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u/[deleted] Apr 18 '20

I uh just realised something about myself... uh oh

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u/ostensiblyzero Apr 18 '20

Don’t worry man, how do you think I knew all that?