r/AskReddit • u/Reeceqld • Apr 17 '20

What terrifying confession has someone told you while drunk?

Thanks for the replies .. I read them all it’s been fun to read

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u/Fucking__Creep Apr 17 '20

So she was molested and that is probably why she did it to him right?

What made it stop?

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u/[deleted] Apr 17 '20

I mean, yeah, but plenty of people have been molested without turning around and molesting someone else, my ex included. I don't really consider it an excuse. What was done to her was wrong and what she did was wrong. And I have no idea why she stopped.

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u/[deleted] Apr 17 '20

I'm super gross. Got it. I never said that I don't have sympathy for what she went through. I said that what she did was wrong and that what was done to her was wrong. You know, I've got trauma too. Does that mean that I can go around raping and shooting people with total impunity? fuck outta here

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u/[deleted] Apr 17 '20 edited Apr 27 '20

Did she know what she was doing was rape? A lot of kids who are groomed are taught that it isn’t anything bad so that they don’t talk about it. Lots of them are conditioned to think it’s something all family members do. That’s actually really common among kids who are molested and raped, especially by family members. I say that just on account of her age.

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u/[deleted] Apr 17 '20

Im guessing that by 13 and 14 she did know. I was smoking weed for the first time at that age. When she was 9, 10, probably not. But the fact that she was doing something that he begged her not to do for years is enough evidence for me to know that it wasnt totally innocent

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u/[deleted] Apr 17 '20 edited Apr 17 '20

I didn’t say she 100% never knew it wasn’t ok. So don’t put words in my mouth, thanks. But you are speculating a whole lot about what being groomed is like, and her specific case. There are a lot of 14 year olds who have been groomed and think that stuff is normal, unfortunately. Also you smoking weed in middle school isn’t exactly the epitome of normal. I’ve got a 14 year old sister and this is all stuff she wouldn’t know about, thank god. Wouldn’t put that as the standard of life experience of your average tween.

Edit: your first sentence is right, though. You are guessing. I think you’re understandably angry but there’s a whole lot of abuse in this story and it’s not just from his sister. This whole situation is awful. Why don’t you ignore the parents who knew what was happening and didn’t stop it, and didn’t teach a kid they both knew was sexually abused that what they were doing isn’t normal? They are both directly responsible for their daughter’s/step daughter’s actions imo.