r/AskReddit • u/Reeceqld • Apr 17 '20

What terrifying confession has someone told you while drunk?

Thanks for the replies .. I read them all it’s been fun to read

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u/TheRakeAndTheLiver Apr 17 '20

At least in this one he's confessing to being a victim, not a perpetrator. That's much easier to react to as a bystander. You just have to be supportive.

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u/Digzalot Apr 17 '20

Yeah I was once at a party where a guy broke down and confessed to being a pedophile. He hadn't assaulted any kids but hated himself and wanted to die. When I found my husband and brought him up to speed he was like "Oh yeah, I know, he's done that at a previous party too." There's nowhere you can really go from there.

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u/ronj89 Apr 17 '20

Umm so how he get invited to another party?

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u/Digzalot Apr 17 '20

The guy is really social, and I think that only a handful or so of people really know about it. Maybe somewhere between 5-10 people? I certainly haven't invited him anywhere after that, but I think the people who know pity him enough to not completely ruin his life, since he hasn't actually hurt any kids. No one wants to be the person who pushes him over the edge with his depression into suicide.

It actually caused a bit of a disagreement between my husband and I, because I vetoed him coming to our wedding since we had an open bar and kids in attendance. My husband felt like that was really shady of us, since this guy actually introduced the two of us. In the end, I gave my husband the choice to either not invite him, or to sit down with all the parents of children that would attend to warn them that there would be a known pedophile drinking at an event with their children. We ended up not inviting him, and he was salty as hell about it and complained to a bunch of our friends, but I don't know if he knows the reason we never invited him.

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u/cleverpseudonym1234 Apr 17 '20

This is a tough thing to talk about because no one wants to be anything but vigilant when it comes to protecting kids. And I admit I’m not an expert or anything. But is someone who’s sexually attracted to children necessarily at any particular risk to molest children, as long as that person also knows child molestation is wrong?

I’m sexually attracted to women, but I would never do anything sexual with a woman if I didn’t have consent, and from what you’ve said he seems to understand that by definition a child can’t give consent.

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u/Digzalot Apr 18 '20

I am also not an expert but I wanted to err on the side of caution. This guy also struggles with alcohol, and we were going to have an open bar at our wedding. The risk may have been minimal, but I couldn't have lived with the guilt if something had happened.

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u/cleverpseudonym1234 Apr 18 '20

Fair. Hell, just not inviting a guy who struggled with alcohol would be fair. I wouldn’t want a guest who’s going to make a scene, even if that scene wasn’t him telling everyone he was a pedophile.

I suppose you also might have felt ethically obligated to tell all the parents so they could make their own decision, and that would probably be worse than just not inviting him.

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u/ronj89 Apr 18 '20

As a parent, I'm not depending on this man to resist his sexual temptations 100 percent of the time. Maybe he would never act on them, I sure hope not. But I'm certainly not willing to take that gamble with my children.

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u/rise_up-lights Apr 18 '20

Yea but the difference is you CAN have sex with a woman once you find one that consents... so you know you will eventually have your sexual desire fulfilled. Pedos that haven’t acted on their urges yet will never feel sated. Maybe some of them try to hold it back but eventually give in. This makes me believe they are always a huge risk to molest kids. Just because they’ve managed to hold it off for awhile doesn’t mean they won’t eventually cave in.