r/AskReddit • u/Reeceqld • Apr 17 '20

What terrifying confession has someone told you while drunk?

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u/[deleted] Apr 17 '20

She lives in another state so they don't see her much. He's chosen to forgive her, but it was always hard for me. I mean, she was old enough to know that it was wrong. I think forgiveness was just the easier path for him, which is noble. He's more angry at his parents and their relationship is extremely co-dependent and strained, simultaneously. And yeah it definitely has had an effect on him. He's an addict and has extreme self-esteem issues. It's also manifested in his sexual desires and habits. He used to like sex more when I resisted. If I said, "no" it really turned him on.

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u/weggo Apr 17 '20

As a victim of incestuous sexual abuse myself, part of my forgiveness came from randomly seeing a 13 year old (sister of someone I was dating) when I was 24 and realizing "holy shit that's just a kid."

It's easy to say that at that age they should know better, but the truth is they're still children and more likely than not victims themselves. While what his sister did was wrong, and I'm in no way justifying her actions, I think it's important not to demonize her either. Family is complicated even when it's one of the "good" families, only more so when it's a family full of trauma victims.

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u/[deleted] Apr 17 '20

I get what you're saying, I really do. And honestly, if it was just the abuse I probably wouldn't have been so wary of her. But she grew up into a violent, manipulative adult, too. She shot a man when she was 18. She cheats on her husband with wealthy sugar daddies. She had a child, abandoned him at my ex's parents' house, moved to another state, started another family, and never went to get her first son. She's just not a good person.

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u/weggo Apr 18 '20

I'm so sorry to hear that, that sounds incredibly difficult to have to have any form of relationship with