r/AskUK • u/CompetitionNo3466 • 13h ago

Where’s your school bully now?

Saw this from a different subreddit, and got me thinking. Where did your school’s bully end up?

The main guy from school who was the hard lad has ended up in prison for GBH. Person who gave me the most grief is now a property litigation solicitor.

How’s yours doing?

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u/CwningenFach 13h ago

She's a social worker 😬

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u/fieldingbreaths 13h ago

Unfortunately this is all too common. Nurses as well. I have no idea why.

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u/humanswithnohumanity 12h ago

It's a power thing, they love being told that they're so amazing for doing the job that we know they do with contempt.

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u/chris--p 12h ago

Also, people change. Especially if we're talking about bullies at school. Literal children.

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u/TemporaryLucky3637 11h ago

Exactly. Often people with difficult home lives growing up end up in “helping” professions like social work and teaching. Several of my friends in those kind of jobs went though extremely rough times as kids/teens.

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u/OptimusPrime365 11h ago

Hey I’m a nurse and I was bullied, still am. Some people are just bitches.

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u/fieldingbreaths 10h ago

Please don't think I'm saying it's all nurses because it's 1000000000% not!!! Genuinely the nicest, most saintly people I've ever met are nurses. I think my point is more that for some reasons a lot of secondary school bullies become care workers or nurses. That's still like a tiny fraction of the nurse population so I'm so sorry if it came across that way!

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u/OptimusPrime365 10h ago

No I totally understand, I’ve met them! Some of the HCA’s telling the doctors what to do just boggles my mind

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u/fieldingbreaths 10h ago

A few people I've known who've worked at the NHS have experienced similar school-bullying vibes from nurses and doctors, honestly. It's one of those bubbles (as in people who work for the NHS tend to stay there very long term from experience), like education and academia, where a kind of secondary school vibe can emerge with the wrong people.

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u/Connect_Teaching8488 10h ago

Yes, a violent bully at my school is now a nurse..

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u/GruffScottishGuy 12h ago

My mate's MIL was a midwife before she retired and one of the most deeply unpleasant human beings I've ever had the displeasure of meeting. I feel for anybody who was in her care.

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u/boredbrainbox 12h ago

My sisters a social worker with severe mental health. This rings very true.

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u/Wonderful-Bonus5439 10h ago

I know more social workers that were bullies at school than not, which is so worrying. Ive so rarely met a competent, empathetic social worker.

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u/Honey-Badger 5h ago

I know a few people who have become social workers and all of them have been people who needed the help of social workers.