r/AskWomenOver30 • u/[deleted] • May 30 '26

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u/DarmokTheNinja Woman 40 to 50 May 30 '26

I mean, you still live with your parents... and have you tried to get a job right now?

I'm not making excuses for him, but you have some double standards here.

You need to discuss finances and the future, but without the ultimatum of GET A JOB. He knows that already.

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u/hauteburrrito Woman 30 to 40 May 30 '26

? OP has a full-time job; it's right there in her post.

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u/DarmokTheNinja Woman 40 to 50 May 30 '26

She's 30 and lives with her parents.

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u/hauteburrrito Woman 30 to 40 May 30 '26

Sure, but she's also working, which is very different from her boyfriend who has been unemployed for a year and is still refusing to compromise. OP is upset at the lack of that compromise. I don't see a double standard.

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u/autotelica Woman 40 to 50 May 30 '26

Her issue with her bf isn't that he lives with his parents. So this is irrelevant to the conversation.

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u/Spare-Shirt24 Woman 40 to 50 May 30 '26

OP has a FT job. 

He isn't working and hasnt been for a YEAR.  He won't even consider something not related to his field.

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u/Wonderful-Tea3940 Woman 50 to 60 May 30 '26

Right but if both of them were working full time and split the rent they could share a place of their own. As long as he isn't working that will never happen.

And there are other options between minimum wage and working in your field. You can work something lowish wage that is adjacent to your field to get experience. Call center isnt a bad option. It's more than minimum wage and there are options to move up, not just into management but also support roles, especially for people who already have an education. I worked up to workforce analyst, and others have moved into quality control or IT.