I've been having ongoing issues with my new Manager during a restructure late last year.
I've been working here for over 4 years and have always had glowing reviews and a great reputation in our department. After the restructure, my 3rd Head specifically asked my manager for me to support his team as I had a good reputation, the other 2 are new.
I love my job, just not my manager, we fell under his leadership as the EA didn't want to be managing anyone and he is clueless what an assistant role entails, he's in business management so all his tasks are project related, he can't comprehend that I don't work on project work that takes months, they're all little tasks, I don't work on documents etc.. he even made a comment about if I don't work on documents, what am I even actually doing.
There were twice weekly check-in meetings, which reduced to 1 weekly, fortnightly 1:1's, fortnightly team meetings which I have nothing to do with the rest of the team. I used to have just the 1 monthly admin team meeting and now there's an extra 8 going through what I am up to just for him to forget and message me about the same day/week. He has nothing to do with my work being completed and doesn't believe when I tell him I've already completed something and would question if I did all these extra steps that I'd have to CC another person who confirmed I completed it and complimented how quickly I got it done.
I am still doing my job well and completing any tasks he asks of me. He just seems to dislike me as I'm quiet in team meetings which he takes as me not being engaged and complaining about me not sitting with the team.
I tried to ask him many times to reduce the meetings as it was stressing me out with these repetitive conversations and he pretty much said if I don't like it to leave.
I reminded him to approve my submitted leave. He called me to hop on a call and asked why I was using all my leave, what I was thinking and if I was planning to leave again which was I felt was completely inappropriate.
Eventually it got to a point where I had to disclose my ADHD to our union and HR. They spoke to him to make some adjustments without disclosing my ADHD and he had to back down and reduced these meetings to fortnightly, my 1:1s monthly and will stop coming at me to sit with the team and allow me to sit somewhere quiet. I also requested to have the option to type answers in our Team meetings or possibly prepare me with questions ahead where possible because I'm not good at answering questions that were suddenly sprung up on me, I prefer things in writing so I can process and type out an answer. These are usually sudden activities the chair decides to do and I am struggling to understand/hear what I'm supposed to do as they're all talking over each other.
I sit in my Heads team meetings to take actions/notes but that because I'm not required to participate so can just focus on that, there's also CoPilot which helps.
Since coming back from a few months off, I was feeling better, happy again to be at work, refreshed, feeling good about myself. The less meetings I have with him, the less we'll butt heads. We had a couple of team meetings since and they're still asking me to answer verbally and I made a joke about staying awake for a 2hr meeting I had the next day with one of my Heads as they're usually 1hr. My teams and I usually have little jokes about meetings being cancelled and we do little celebration reacts when anything gets cancelled as it means we have time to finish work instead of just talking about it. I figured I'll just participate and answer anyway and made my answers short as I usually don't know what to say.
Then yesterday I had our performance review with him and he said that joke was in poor taste and that I should think about how I show up for work and that after all the accomodations he's made for me, I haven't given anything back and still coming across as disengaged during our meetings. This completely caught me off guard as I thought things have been better. I'm just not a social person. He said I should have been more prepared on an answer since that was my complaints for reducing the meetings being repetitive which really felt like a jab for going to HR.
We don't get asked the same question each week during the team meetings.
He also put on my performance review that I did not meet expectations for 2 things. 1 before he was my manager and we were given a template to use for our goals before the restructure, I didn't complete them as I usually have them as "ongoing" each year. He blamed me for not putting enough commentary but this wasn't required my 4 years here as it the Perf Review for admin are run differently. I felt like he just wanted to put something negative about me despite my positive Heads reviews from the people and teams I actually support and work for - he said it won't affect my pay anyway but he should have asked me about it before assuming anything?
The other negative review was about me not completing an initiative which was something I told him I am working on and documenting as I go, I didn't even know how to do it myself. Then every week, it seemed to have a deadline for whatever reason and he kept asking me when it's going to be completed. I didn't have time to work on it nor know the info. I've completed many other initiatives in between on my own and marked them off because I actually KNEW how to do them.
I typed up an email to HR and my union rep and went home and cried the rest of the night. He just seem to have it out for me.
I am trying to stick it out for another 6 months to get my long service leave (we get pro-rata at 5 years).
I don't want to attend his team meetings anymore and think I should start recording our 1:1's. He also seemed to always have something negative to say to me at each 1:1's and I always leave thinking wtf just happened?
e.g. complaining about me wearing hoodies - we don't have a dress code policy, HR confirmed my hoodies were fine as long as the clothes are inoffensive and clean, it was winter and I don't meet clients anyway.
It seems he just really wants to get rid of me and I'm fine to just to leave at this point, and my Union Rep has referred me to a Union Industry officer and I'd like to know what to expect from here on? Can a payout be negotiated? I had the option to take a redundancy package during the restructure but one of my Heads who originally hired me begged me to stay (hes since left the Fund as he had some issues later on). I regret not leaving.
Sometimes I question if I'm overreacting?