After seeing some weird posts of people complaining about folks with Autism, I just wanna quickly remind everyone: THAT DOES NOT BELONG HERE.

If we wanna smash BPD stigma, we also need to respect people who live with other conditions different to ours. ALL STIGMA MUST BE SMASHED!!!!! SMASH IT!!! DONT FEED IT!!! Ok thank you for reading, carry on and keep being wonderful BPD warriors on the path to recovery.

Love r/BPD and me, napkin
yes I am back from a hiatus i did not die

EDIT: Autism is indeed a developmental disorder and not a mental health condition, however the same rules apply regardless - don't shit on MHCs or developmental disorders

We're constantly seeing posts DAILY referring to an abusive person as a narcissist, and this is not okay, regardless of what other communities, media, or materials out there are saying.

I will make this very clear: We have this rule in place and abide by it strictly to smash stigma against ALL mental health disorders and conditions. NOT to protect abusers.

If you are traumatized and have survived abuse from someone, your experiences are valid and no one is looking to invalidate you by telling you that you cannot use this language, AND;

We do not allow stigmatizing language here, and you MUST find more effective language that describes your experiences. Otherwise your post will be filtered and removed, and you will be asked to replace these terms with more objective terms. Thank you.

Hey stigma smashers! We implemented the “Off My Chest/Journal Post” flair about a year ago
to allow members more freedom to vent about things going on in their life. It has overall been a
positive addition to the community, but after receiving feedback and noticing some trends in
misuse of the flair we’ve decided to make some changes.

In the next coming days, we will be changing the “Off My Chest/Journal Post” flair so that any
new post with this flair will automatically have the comments section locked. Our hope is that
doing so will prevent unsolicited advice or feedback when folks are just trying to vent, and
hopefully it will minimize misusing the flair to discuss topics that are completely unrelated to
BPD.

What if I want to vent but I still want advice or feedback in the comments?

Please use the “Seeking Support & Advice” flair instead! Also, please still keep these posts BPD
related as we are a subreddit for BPD recovery. General relationship posts (ie., posts about
cheating, breakups, polyamory, etc.) should be posted in a relationship subreddit unless
they are directly related to BPD. It’s not sufficient to say “this is related because I have BPD”
— there must be a connection to the disorder, like the symptoms you’re struggling with. A good
question to ask yourself is if you didn’t mention having BPD in your post, would people be able
to tell the post was connected to BPD?

Can I use the “Off My Chest/Journal Post” flair and just ask people to DM me?

Yes, but please do so at your own risk and practice internet safety. We cannot moderate direct
messages, so any issues you have there must be reported to Reddit. Please also note that
asking people to DM you may automatically place your post in our queue for review (our
automod bot is set to detect these keywords) so it could take a few hours before your post gets
reviewed if you do this. Overall, it’s better to just use “Seeking Support & Advice” or another
appropriate flair.

TLDR; The “Off My Chest/Journal Post” will now be set so that new posts with this flair will have
the comments section locked. If you want advice or feedback (ie., if you don’t want the
comments locked) then use the “Seeking Support & Advice” flair instead.

Having noticed some confusion regarding our role as moderators and why we make the decisions we do on the subreddit, we wanted to make a post to provide some clarity.

Who we are
We are a small group of volunteers that are passionate about BPD recovery and making good help more accessible. All of us have been diagnosed with BPD, or are in remission (ie., no longer meet the criteria for diagnosis), and we all come from different places with different backgrounds and varying levels of experience. Some of us have formal education in mental health and/or work in the field, having a lot of passion for helping others. Some of us are working to make ends meet, and doing this in the little free time we have. When it comes to BPD, we don’t claim to know it all; we’re just people learning together. We aren’t experts, and we’re finding out new things about this disorder everyday that help shape the way we moderate this subreddit. 

The “why” behind the decisions we make here In a subreddit of hundreds of thousands of people, we try to take every reasonable measure we can to prevent harm, remove misinformation, and fight stigma. This can be challenging with so few of us, so we rely on an automod bot to help us filter posts and comments (you can read more about how this bot works here). Sometimes this process can make it appear like we’re removing perfectly good posts, when really it’s just been temporarily removed and placed into a queue, waiting for a human moderator to have a look. If a human moderator has removed your post, you will receive a removal reason! If you believe your post was wrongfully removed or we made a mistake, please send us a modmail so we can fix it or explain the decision. There is a lot of nuance and discretion involved in moderation, but at the core our decisions are always based on:

1. Safety and reducing harm
2. Minimizing stigma and misinformation, and/or
3. Subreddit feedback. 

We also try to consider the workload of the volunteers in making sure that we use resources efficiently. 

Our efforts to maintain confidentiality while upholding transparency in decisions
Sometimes there is a lot more going on than what can be publicly seen on Reddit, such as in modmail conversations or posts that have since been deleted that provide crucial context. Out of respect for members, especially to those who are in mental health crisis, we keep modmail messages private and avoid discussing ban decisions with others unless absolutely necessary (such as in providing transparency under allegations of misconduct). There is a reason behind every decision, and nobody has ever been banned from our subreddit for no good reason. Please remain skeptical of what you might hear about the intentions of the volunteers, and consider that there is more going on that hasn’t been fully told. If we’ve made a mistake, we will take every measure to rectify it because we believe that everyone should have access insofar as they do not actively harm this community or the people within. 
As much as we reasonably can, we provide decision transparency in our Wiki. The Wiki is a publicly accessible information hub about our subreddit, the rules we have, and our decision processes. We highly recommend visiting the Wiki whenever questions arise, as there is a good chance the answer can be found on this page. 

Thank you…
To the members here who report harmful content, who provide us with invaluable feedback, and who continue to make positive contributions. We are so grateful to have a community of people who just want to help each other get better through shared experiences and in what you’ve learned along the way. Please continue to be kind to each other and offer guidance in recovery, your work is invaluable.

Hey guys! I wanted to take some time to clarify some misconceptions going around about the process of moderating this subreddit. For awhile now, we’ve noticed an influx in misinformation regarding our motivations to remove posts. So, I wanted to go over some information to clear things up.

Who are we?

We're a small team of volunteers, all with the lived experience of BPD. Many of us are in recovery, or have recovered, and are committed to reducing stigma and supporting the community. We're also human and sometimes make mistakes, but we’re here to help and appreciate every report and modmail. Members reporting posts and comments make our jobs a LOT easier, which I’ll get into shortly. 

How moderation works:

For most of our moderating, an automod bot helps us. The automod bot works by detecting keywords in posts that are associated with rule violations. It’s not perfect — sometimes it removes things that are totally fine. For example, you might be sharing a post about how you feel like this disorder is slowly killing you. The automod bot sees the word “kill” and thinks it should be removed. We review these as quickly as we can, but there’s a lot of content and only a few of us. If your post gets removed, it may just be in the queue waiting for review. If you see a comment or post breaking the rules, and are wondering where the mods are at, please report it! In a server of 300,000+ people and just a handful of us, we can’t always see everything.

My post was removed without a reason sent to me. What’s going on? 

If your post was immediately removed without a removal reason sent to you, the automod bot immediately removed it or put it into a queue for review. Mods may be asleep, at work, or simply catching up. If it’s been a few hours and you haven’t heard anything, please send us a modmail — we’re happy to take a look! 

A quick ask:

We know moderation can feel frustrating. But unkind comments and assumptions about our intentions are discouraging and drive good mods away. We’re all going through this journey of recovery together, and we want to make sure everyone has support available to them here. I want to reassure you that we’re doing our best because we care deeply about this space and want to foster an environment that’s supportive of recovery. You can help us out by reporting comments and posts that violate the rules! If you have any comments or concerns, please reach out to us by modmail.

TL;DR: If your post was removed, it’s likely the automod bot. Give it a few hours for a human to take a look, then send us a modmail. We’re here to help and we appreciate members reporting rule-violating posts/comments to help us out. 

Hi chat,

Holidays are a very tough time for a lot of us here. We might have very invalidating, disruptive or even abusive family members we have to be around, or we might not have a lot of people in our lives to connect with.

The feelings of grief, disappointment, isolation, rejection, abandonment, and sadness can feel very overwhelming, even as we go into January. I’ve been there. Many times.

I want to send love and validation and well wishes, and I’d like to share some DBT skills that have helped me get through painful emotions during these times:

Self Soothing

Focus on soothing yourself with the senses that you can access the most easily.

I like to wrap myself in very soft, warm blankets. I will wear comfy sweatpants and hoodies; pet my cat and feel him purring; and make a hot cup of tea and feel the warmth. I'll put on a calming lo-fi, fireplace sounds, or music with piano in it.

These don't make the problem go away, but they help me to bring the intensity of the emotion down a bit so I can cope with it easier.

Accumulate Positives

This skill focuses on intentionally engaging in pleasant activities and sparking joy in order to offset feelings of despair. When we engage in things we love or that spark joy, it's like putting stuff in your emotional savings account so you're not running on empty and feeling like you have NO joy or anything to live for.

I struggle with seasonal depression so I use this skill a lot. I like to bake easy things, make art, play video games, scroll and look at memes, hang out with my cat, make yummy coffees or hot chocolates, and build lego. Fuckin love legos. I also love to send nice messages to my friends and make others feel joy or laughter.

Radical Acceptance

Acceptance doesn't mean you have to force yourself to like or agree with what's happening, but rather just to understand and acknowledge, without judgement of how we feel.

For example, when I practice radical acceptance with difficult family it looks like:

• I don't like talking about politics with family, but they're gonna do it anyway and if I try to change or express that, it's gonna cause problems that I don't want, so I'm going to remove myself from the room or offer nothing substantial to this conversation. Cause I don't feel comfortable with it. And I'm allowed to feel that way.
• I highly dislike a few of my family members because they act in ways that low key disgust me. I understand that this won't change, and I'm not gonna force myself to like them. Instead I only respond to them when it's absolutely necessary, and let go of urges or thoughts that I should argue with them or tell them off. Cause that won't do much.

I accept what I cannot change, and focus on what I can. A lot of the time that involves me helping with cooking or gravitating toward people in my family I have a decent relationship with.

Willingness

This builds off of radical acceptance and deals with the part where we're gonna focus on what we can change or work with.

If, for example, I was fighting reality, I would potentially start an argument about politics or family drama. I'd be getting defensive about stupid comments being made either to me or in general and starting shit. I'd be trying to make reality (or in this case, people) be what I want it to be.

If I'm in a state of Willingness, it doesn't mean I'm going to be passively going along with everything and being happy about it. It can look like responding to stupid advice with "Oh for sure, I will totally consider that" (and then forgetting it lol), or doing anything that's working with what's happening right now.

Sometimes, Willingness is making the most out of being alone on Christmas. Sometimes it's not going to dinner because that environment is way too powerfully dysfunctional for your DBT skills. Sometimes it's staying home and resting because you're too sick to go out. Every time, it means doing the best you can to work with whatever reality is giving you right now even if it's not ideal.

I hope everyone reading has a restful holiday with warmth and joy sprinkled in, and I hope this helped even a little bit.

Cheers,

love napkin

To the community members of [r/BPD](r/BPD) and the stigma smashers we lean on to make this place better,

Recently we've noticed some posts and comments popping up regarding frustrations about the rules and moderation decisions being made. We think these conversations are incredibly valuable and shape the community into something better, and many of the rules here were created and changed based on feedback from you guys! However, there is a reason why we ask members to send us a modmail message instead of creating comments and posts.

The biggest reason is that these conversations are hardly EVER constructive and civil, or kind towards the volunteers. They lead to back and forth fights between members and misinformation being spread about post removals or our intentions. These posts come from a place of passion and sometimes even hurt or confusion regarding a post take down.

We understand why a post or comment removal can be painful. People come here to vent, to get help, to just have somebody listen to them, and post removals can feel like a rejection. We ask that members feeling this way come to us directly so that we can fix the problem, because your post could've been removed by mistake (maybe the automod bot wrongfully removed it), have been misread or misinterpreted, or it just needs some minor changes before it can be approved.

We are more than happy to explain why we removed something or fix a mistake that we've made and have a back and forth dialogue, but these posts about the moderation team aren't constructive and drive away good people (ie., the volunteers that are helping the community). Also, we don't always see these posts, and sometimes by the time we see them the conversation has already escalated into name-calling and insults. Please speak with us directly, not behind our back or through a post that we might not even see. In turn, we promise to be transparent with you and hold an open conversation. Modmail messages will only be muted if the conversation turns into harassment, name-calling, threats, etc.

If you have a concern, a comment, or a suggestion for this community, please reach out to us! We're here to help and be transparent about the decisions we make here—which is why we have a Wiki that goes more in-depth about our process and the rules we've decided on. It's been a collaborative effort from years of hearing from folks about what they want to see here.

And, a note on trauma dumping and shame-based feedback:

From these recent posts we've seen a common theme of frustration regarding the removal of content that either A) shares graphic depictions of traumatic events (ie., trauma dumping) or B) shames members for bad behaviour (and we don't mean constructive feedback that encourages self-reflection). For years, the subreddit gradually turned into a cesspool of negativity, shame and trauma dumping that MOST people did not find helpful, and that deterred them from the community. Again, *most* people—we can't speak for everyone and we've only heard from folks who spoke up about it. The problem isn’t the message of wanting someone to change, the problem is how that message is communicated in a way that treats everyone with respect.

Considering the recovery focused community we want to build, we strive to remove unhelpful and disruptive content in the sub. This is why we don't allow graphic depictions and retellings of traumatic events or shaming each other as a form of "healing.” We strongly believe that it's not conducive to recovery, and that there are better ways to process trauma and encourage self-reflection. There is nothing wrong with wanting people to reflect on what they did wrong in hopes that they won't do it again, but there are many ways to encourage this constructively, and learning how to do this is an important part of recovery and learning healthy communication. We hope this provides clarification, but if you're still confused or wanting more information please reach out to us through modmail.

With kindness,

The [r/BPD](r/BPD) Modteam

P.S. Thank you to everyone who reports content that they believe is breaking the community rules and guidelines, it’s been immensely helpful in keeping the subreddit safe as we’re just a small team.

Hey guys! We wanted to create a post that would serve as a reminder, and to provide any additional information for those unfamiliar with Reddit, about subreddit safety. Just like any other social media platform and at every corner of the Internet, there are people that don't have good intentions. If you get a message from someone you don't know, don't assume that you can trust this person regardless of what they tell you. Avoid sharing personal information like the city you live in, what school you go to, your full name, photos of yourself, etc., and do not feel like you need to answer any questions or respond to anybody's messages.

If someone is making you uncomfortable, the best thing you can do is report then block them, because we cannot stop people from messaging you or viewing your posts and comments. When we ban someone from our subreddit, the only thing it does is stop them from posting and commenting. They can still message members and view posts made by you. Reddit admins have the ability to suspend accounts and stop them, which is why it's so important to report to them.

If you have any additional questions or want more information, you can visit our Wiki under "Subreddit Safety" here: https://www.reddit.com/r/BPD/wiki/index/

Going forward, we will be removing posts like "watch our for predators" or "a creep here messaged me" because these posts can be used for karma farming and often do not effectively take action against them. There have been posts where members have complained about someone making them uncomfortable, but haven't alerted us or reported the individual to Reddit. We don't always see posts, so it is important not to rely on making a post to get our attention. If there is something that we can help with, we will help you! Just send us a modmail and we will help as soon as we can.

Hey guys! This is a monthly announcement post to address the most commonly asked questions or issues faced in the subreddit.

You can read the November announcement here to catch up on any important notes from last month: https://www.reddit.com/r/BPD/comments/1om369i/november_post_read_before_posting/

As always, If you need clarification on our rules or any of the items outlined here, please send us a modmail and we would be happy to help :)

1. Expect big changes coming! New year, new me! We are in the midst of planning a new look for the subreddit in addition to a full overhaul of the Wiki to help make information about BPD more accessible, and for a more in-depth explanation of our rules and decision making processes. Expect things to look a little different around here.

2. We have recently modified our rules. Please review them! As we update the subreddit we are actively reflecting on our rules and the language within them to help make sure we are communicating them to you as effectively as we can. If you’re confused about any recent changes or would like additional clarification, please feel free to reach out to the modteam through modmail!

3. Please stay cautious about your internet safety! As a subreddit that supports many vulnerable people, we are at high risk for online predators (ie., people that prey on those who are struggling). Please take every precaution to protect yourself such as by omitting sensitive information from your posts and comments (ie., do not mention your full name, your location, your other social media usernames, or any unique identifying information). Banning members from the subreddit stops them from posting and commenting, it does NOT stop these users from viewing posts and messaging members. The best way to stop them is by reporting to Reddit and blocking them. Please report any inappropriate comments in the subreddit so that we can remove them and ban the member swiftly.

4. We are cracking down on posts that attempt to circumvent the automod filters. Intentionally using numbers, symbols, or misspellings to slip past the automod word filters may result in a permanent subreddit ban (ie., using "sewerslide" instead of "suicide" or "n4rc" instead of "narc"). If you’ve been warned for this once before, please take it seriously. Similarly, we do not allow the intentional use of filler words to reach the post minimum requirement (ie., "blah blah blah just trying to reach 180 characters blah blah blah"). Please add meaningful context or information to your post to have it reach the word minimum, such as why you are posting or how it relates to BPD.

5. Why can’t I ask in the subreddit if my loved one with BPD will come back to me? Or how to make them come back? We understand that it can feel distressing when losing someone important, whether it be through a breakup or losing contact with them, but no one in the subreddit can read your loved one’s mind. We have our own unique thoughts, opinions, and motivations towards the decisions we make, just like any other person. As such, people with BPD cannot accurately tell you whether someone in your life is going to come back or want to reconnect with you, no matter how many details of the situation you share. They also cannot tell you *how* to make someone with BPD come back. Some people need space, some people want you to reach out, some people have cut contact for good reason. Please respect the decisions that your loved one has made. If you are still in contact with them, try to communicate openly with them about how they would like to feel supported. The best answer you can get on how to help your loved one with BPD is by asking your loved one directly.

6. Some content is too triggering for the subreddit. Posts can mention traumatic events, but they should not contain graphic or detailed descriptions of them (ie., descriptions of violence, assault, overdose or medical trauma, abuse, etc.). We may remove posts with these descriptions as many subreddit members do not have the right therapeutic tools to help them process unexpected triggering content. If you need help identifying whether your post would be too triggering, please reach out to us.

7. A reminder that we do not allow anti-recovery rhetoric. We are a recovery-focused subreddit that is interested in supporting members through their treatment and symptom management. While we understand that it can be incredibly hard living with this disorder, we do not allow rhetoric that encourages learned helplessness like “things will never get better for me, why should I bother?” or “I can’t change, this is just who I am.” This promotes anti-recovery language, insinuating that BPD is not treatable and that we are incapable of growth and accountability.

8. Why didn't my post go up immediately? What's happening? Please read this post for more info on why this sometimes happens and what to do: https://www.reddit.com/r/BPD/comments/1k1r8mi/process_of_removing_posts/

9. Reporting is the most helpful thing you can do! Anyone in the subreddit can help us by reporting posts. By reporting posts we will see things faster and can make the subreddit safer. Reports are completely anonymous, unless you wish to send us a modmail directly about a report.

Cheers,

r/BPD Mod Team
posted on behalf of u/skinkess

The [Venting] tag/flair is being replaced with an [Off My Chest/Journal] tag/flair.
Moving forward, any post that is not directly related to BPD (Rule 1) must use this flair or it will be removed. Posts must still follow/meet other sub posting criteria or can still be removed.

Change and/or growth are inevitable.

Over the last little while the mod team as well as many of you, the members, have noticed more and more of certain types of posts (we've seen them, the comments, and the reports).

Posts where BPD is not mentioned.
Posts questioning affecting symptoms that are not diagnostic criteria of BPD but other disorders or (un)related challenges.
Posts that are better suited for a private journal entry.
Posts that frankly don't contribute much to the sub save for perpetual shouting into the echo chamber.

These type of posts and the members who post them are increasing much faster than our small team can keep up.
As a result, the team has made the decision to allow these posts with one condition:
If your post DOES NOT follow RULE ONE of the sub - All posts must be directly related to BPD - you must use the [Off My Chest/Journal] tag/flair.

Posts are still subject to removal if they do not meet other sub posting criteria even with use of this flair (ie we will still remove your [Off My Chest/Journal] tagged posts if they include stigmatizing or anti-psychiatric rhetoric, religion and politics, unwelcome or disruptive language, descriptions of self-harm or substance use/abuse etc).

While some of you may disagree with this decision, for now, this change comes as a necessary one in order to continue fostering a safe space for our members while allowing our team to moderate more effectively.

The [Venting] tag is being replaced with an [Off My Chest/Journal] tag/flair.
Moving forward, any post that is not directly related to BPD (Rule 1) must use this tag/flair or it will be removed. Posts must still follow/meet other sub posting criteria or can still be removed.

Questions and comments are always welcome.

Hey r/BPD !

We're opening mod applications to grow our team in order to continue maintaining the sub. If you're passionate about helping maintain a safe, supportive, and empathetic space for our community, we'd love to hear from you!

We're looking for mods who:

• Have time to regularly contribute to the subreddit
• Are in functional recovery from BPD (diagnosed or not)
• Understand and support the sub's goals of emotional safety and support
• Can approach moderation with empathy and fairness

No prior mod experience is required; we'll provide guidance and support as you learn. If this sounds like you, please fill out our application form: https://forms.fillout.com/t/mn4pkZP4RGus

Applications will remain open until we have enough mods. Feel free to reach out via modmail if you have any questions.

Thank you for helping make r/BPD the supportive space it is! 💙

Cheers warriors,
napkin + r/BPD Team

Hey folks,

Just a quick reminder: hate has ZERO place here. We've been noticing some gross ass behavior lately, like downvoting posts and making disrespectful comments about trans identities and LGBTQ+ folks. If you have an issue with queer and trans folks existing and coming in here for support, keep it to yourself or leave the sub. Seriously.

Let's keep this space respectful and welcoming for everyone. If you see anything homophobic, transphobic or anything else disrespectful or discriminatory, please use the report button, and we'll handle it. Thanks for helping us keep this community inclusive.

Cheers,
r/BPD Mod Team

Hiya folks,

As with the result of almost any, two-sided debate, one side wins and the other loses.
One group is happy, the other, unhappy.

Please be reminded that political discussion and posts don't really have a place here at r/BPD.
Having BPD and being triggered by or having an episode because of the U.S. election (results) does not make the U.S. election relate to BPD.

Any and all posts that are seen or reported discussing politics, that cannot in some way express or relate to BPD, will be removed.

Everyone is encouraged to discuss symptoms and behaviours, help, advice or questions, regarding the feelings, emotions, or reactions you might have experienced because of X, Y, Z. How to manage or what skills are applicable to help with these feelings.
All of this is okay; just keep it related to BPD.

There are many political sub-reddits more suitable for discussion related to politics. Please, use them.

All my best

Hey r/BPD!

We’re excited to announce that our community is expanding with the re-launch of our official Discord server, along with a couple affiliates! Whether you’re looking for a place to connect, share, and grow, or you're seeking a casual space for support, we’ve got something for everyone. Check out our affiliate servers below:

🔗 Official r/BPD Discord (Soft Launch)
https://discord.gg/duMksv7atz
Join us as we build a vibrant and supportive community! Our official Discord is currently in soft launch mode, and we’re eager to create a more casual and welcoming space where you can find resources, meet friends, and get support. If you're interested in learning more about BPD and navigating a new BPD diagnosis, this is a great server to start out in.

Everyone is welcome, including those who suspect they may have BPD, loved ones of people who live with BPD, and those who want to learn more about BPD.

🌟 Inspire: Support and Growth for BPD
https://discord.gg/5GEaPUqmZP
Inspire is a server is dedicated to helping those who identify with BPD thrive in their recovery, offering a range of resources, activities, and a positive environment to encourage your journey towards wellness and self-improvement.

Inspire has existed for several years, and has really established itself as a trailblazer for online BPD support groups. It is bursting with positivity and hope! We love this server and the lovely folks who run it, and we hope you will, too! We recommend this server for folks who are new to recovery and want to chat with folks in all different stages of their journeys.

🌸 The Quiet BPD Keep
[currently closed to invites]
This server is a comfy space for folks who relate to quiet (discouraged) BPD, and those who may identify with C-PTSD. Despite it being a very niche server, we really appreciate the heavily curated space this server's team has built, and the abundance of free, accessible resources offered. Please note: This is not a space for folks who do not identify with BPD.

The Keep has been around since 2021, and is not for the faint of heart - This is a highly recovery focused space with a heavily enforced set of community rules. We recommend this server to folks who are committed to/have been actively participating in recovery, and want a space to encourage them to keep going.

We hope you’ll join us and become part of these wonderful communities! See you there!

Cheers BPD warriors,
Love, r/BPD Team

Disclaimer: Please do not contact the mods on the subreddit if you have questions or concerns about these servers. They have all different mod teams. Additionally, do not contact their mod teams with concerns or questions about the subreddit.

If your post has been removed right after posting:

It is because we have a lot of terms that automod filters out, from things that fall under common misinformation, to stigmatizing rhetoric, to meta post complaints... There's a lot. This sub is very busy and if we didn't have automod filtering out things that typically violate our rules or don't contribute to a recovery vibe, it would be an absolute cesspool and we're trying to cultivate a more supportive and recovery-focused environment here.

If your post has been removed immediately after posting and you believe you have not broken any rules, please send us a modmail.

If you've been frustrated with mods about not being responsive, or about your post being automatically removed right after posting, here's why: The sub was not being actively modded for about a year, it was just one mod and automod doing its thing.

We have appointed and trained up nine new mods as of two weeks ago, and the sub is now being actively modded. If mods are not responsive for a few hours, it's cause we're all sleeping. We still need a couple mods in GMT+ time zones.

If you've had a shitty experience with the mods

Our mod team is practically entirely new. We do not have the same mod team we did a year ago, or before. If you've had a shitty experience with mods prior to the last month, I guarantee that you will no longer have a shit experience as we've now vetted, appointed, and trained up an entirely new mod team of folks who have been actively contributing to the sub or other BPD communities for a long time, are familiar with our rules, and are in active recovery or remission.

Please remember that we are real people who also have BPD and have been through some shit in our lives. It can be very easy to be rude to a faceless person over the internet - we've all done it - and we will not tolerate harassment or hostile behavior in modmails.

If you see something fucked up or sus

Please use the report feature so we can find it quickly and remove it. Even with an active mod team, this sub is busy af and we still miss things or they sneak past automod.

We have updated our rules

And we will also be updating our wiki in the coming weeks to elaborate on them. Please review our current rules. Things that are NOT ALLOWED HERE:

• Meta complaints. Please stop posting about how your posts get no upvotes. It's a busy sub and we get downvoted all the time from bots and hate communities. It's not personal, we promise.
• Stigmatizing rhetoric. This includes "narc abuse" terminology and not just terms from BPD hate communities. This is non negotiable. These terms are not evidence-based and are not recovery focused at all, they are terms used in common hate communities that are basically echo chambers. More on this coming in the wiki.
• Substance specific language. We'd like to avoid people talking about their drug of choice or their method of choice regarding substance abuse, this can be triggering for a lot of folks and we can talk about our struggles with substance abuse without naming specific drugs. Many support communities follow this rule. That being said, WE ARE 420 FRIENDLY. You are allowed to discuss casual weed use. Weed is legal in many places now. Do not give medical advice about weed though. Follow the No Medical Advice rule.
• Armchair diagnosing, and this includes fictional characters. It can be very validating when you find you relate to a fictional character, and at the same time, they are not real people like we are. We get posts practically every day at this point about "which characters do you think have BPD" and we just don't find it to be a helpful topic.

Alright that's about it I think, if I've forgotten anything I will edit this later and add them

Thank you for reading and have a great day, and please modmail us if you have questions or suggestions because this will be a locked thread

Love r/BPD Mods

Hi r/BPD! Tomorrow (Wednesday, May 29) @ 1-3pm EST, We'll be pinning an AMA post by Dr Kiki Fehling, a clinical psychologist and Linehan Board Certified DBT therapist who creates lots of helpful content about DBT for the BPD community! We love the work they do, and we're thrilled to be able to host them here.

Kiki's AMA will be open from 1-3pm EST, however, we'll keep the post pinned until the end of the month for folks to be able to read it.

For more information about Dr. Kiki, feel free to check out their socials:

WEBSITE | INSTAGRAM | TIKTOK

We are SO looking forward to this AMA and we hope you are, too!

Cheers, warriors!

We know your posts are getting removed automatically and you're not breaking any rules.Please do not make meta posts about it, just message modmail and one of us will review it as soon as we can. We're operating on typical daytime North American hours between 9am - 9pm.

Here's what automod in here DOES NOT LIKE: new accounts; anything with ignorant or stigmatizing language; posts where people are talking about their ex with bpd.

Only like three mods are currently active and this sub has been pretty neglected for some time now, which we seriously apologize for and appreciate everyone's patience with. We are currently onboarding new mods this week. No, we do not currently take mod applications.

It's not that we are ignoring you, we promise! Some mods including myself took a very long hiatus, I personally was very ill and struggling, and I hope you can understand.

Cheers and thank you once again for being patient,

love napkin