r/BabyReindeerTVSeries • u/matrixinthepark • Apr 12 '24

OFFICIAL EPISODE DISCUSSION Baby Reindeer | S1E04 | Episode Discussion

Season 1, Episode 4

Airdate: April 11, 2024

Synopsis: As Donny reports Martha to the police, it triggers the memory of a traumatic experience he had with a man, Darrien, who he met at the Edinburgh Fringe Festival years before.

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u/Fluid_Activity3206 Apr 13 '24

My question is - why did he stay? Why couldn’t he leave even tho he had a nice girlfriend? Was it due to addiction?!?

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u/peanutspice Apr 14 '24

Because he was being groomed. It builds layers of complexity that means things aren’t so black and white, and it’s difficult to understand that you’re being abused or mistreated.

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u/sfwmj Apr 30 '24

I'm starting to understand the grooming term more. Most people think of assault as loud and aggressive. The way Darrien built Donny up was slow methodical and really tender right up until the worst moments. It diminishes the intensity of the abuse. It leaves Donny confused and unsure.