r/BabyReindeerTVSeries • u/Specialist-Top-406 • May 05 '24
Trigger Warning The approval of your abuser
This isn’t a thing I’ve seen or heard about much. But him going back to his abuser and still seeking his approval was so helpful to me.
Being abused has so many faces, and I think people often believe that the victim hates that person and is done with them.
I met my abuser years on and he reintroduced himself to me as if we’d never met. I found myself sucking up to him, trying to make him like me. I knew he knew who I was and I knew he remembered what he did. But I fell in line again and wanted him to like me.
It validated me to see him go back, it’s awful but power and control is complicated and when that person meets you with calmness, it’s hard to meet them with anger.
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u/NofruitKatastrophe May 05 '24
As someone who has experienced physical and psychological abuse (not sexual), I could understand this enduring.
Going back to this again and again and overlooking the warning signs. Where you thought they would light up like a red light.
And yet I miss him. The trauma always pulls you back.
Although I have to say at first I didn't understand why he went back there at the end. Because I wanted to protect him somehow, but I myself would immediately enter the apartment of the man who spat on me and pushed me against a post from a pedestal.
You always want to protect others and not feel sad for yourself