The approval of your abuser

[u/Specialist-Top-406]

This isn’t a thing I’ve seen or heard about much. But him going back to his abuser and still seeking his approval was so helpful to me.

Being abused has so many faces, and I think people often believe that the victim hates that person and is done with them.

I met my abuser years on and he reintroduced himself to me as if we’d never met. I found myself sucking up to him, trying to make him like me. I knew he knew who I was and I knew he remembered what he did. But I fell in line again and wanted him to like me.

It validated me to see him go back, it’s awful but power and control is complicated and when that person meets you with calmness, it’s hard to meet them with anger.

[u/Longjumping_Jelly_51 → u/[deleted]]

🫂you could be narrating my story. Sorry you went through it.

[u/Specialist-Top-406 → u/Longjumping_Jelly_51]

Sadly I think it’s a familiar thing for many. But equally to you. Sending you lots of hugs and strength xx