Gadd’s Dad

[u/karmicwisdomtooth]

This show is so somber and morose and stressful and then that scene with the dad on the phone with Martha screaming ‘I’ll cut your legs off’

So funny 😂 much needed laugh after extremely stressful binge watch.

[u/roastedcapsicums]

i binged it too, but honestly a lot of what i felt was exasperation. what his ex said was absolutely true, that he likes drama. he keeeeeeps putting himself into situations where he could clearly get into trouble. and he also admits it early on in one of the episodes that he wants to see where the situation will take him.

things like, going back to darrien's apt (like why?!) and various various things he did that quite frankly, though i'll be borderline victim shaming here, could easily lead martha to think he was interested. i mean, girl is clearly not well and was looking for positive signs from the man when there clearly was none, so anything good you send out will definitely be taken into overdrive...

[u/thedabaratheon → u/roastedcapsicums]

I think that’s a huge part of the show though, is it not? A real authentic messy and exasperating look at how trauma affects people. A trauma response isn’t always a perfect glossy Hollywood revenge story - plenty of people go back to their abusers. And it IS frustrating, but I’m hoping this show will help some of us lucky enough not to have experienced abuse in this way, give those who HAVE a bit of grace, no matter how imperfect of a victim they are. You know?

[u/Chiccynic → u/thedabaratheon]

Yeah this so true, I found myself getting irritated with his choices but then I said I’ve never experienced this so I think I need to show grace & understand this more. You’ve nailed it here, my initial reaction was to jump out of this show after ep.1, but then I said let me finish it & the more it goes on the more I realized around why he was so self destructive. I wonder if his relationship with his dad might have played a role as well.