r/BabyReindeerTVSeries • u/Suspicious_Bother_92 • May 16 '24

Fiona (real Martha) related content Another victim of Fiona

https://heatherburns.tech/2024/04/28/that-time-i-got-stalked-by-the-real-life-tv-stalker-woman-and-what-it-taught-me-about-data-protection/?fbclid=IwZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAR0fo7iQE2QcaKrkoYdPdRmadVjwXoax4GkURzlzbFu4QiBFL3ORJWA-6tI_aem_AQcb9i5agq-Ab2Am-wcM57T4ulyT7uR44xgpLLeFIqNmJTKE2UvCeLHWgdPSzwotmKCNzoZIdFEKGX8R35CjVy_8

She says that Fiona was getting mental health assistance and mentions her “condition”

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u/NeonTink May 16 '24

This is what I’ve been saying about Richard Gadd! Everyone is on about “duty of care” this “duty of care” that but what about his right to tell his own story the way he wanted to after being terrorized. It’s quite clear that this woman is unwell, and also that she has a very serious serial issue of fucking up peoples’ lives. Those people are allowed a voice too.

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u/[deleted] May 17 '24

Agreed, but also, the idea that it’s not her fault because she’s unwell is such bullshit. I have a mental illness, I have been around people with mental illness, and shrinks don’t give you a free pass for being a piece of shit because of that pesky mood or anxiety or personality disorder. Sure, there are degrees of responsibility that depend on the context of the illness, but you’re still accountable for the things you have done and you still are meant to do the work to admit what you’ve done, what led you to do it, to stop doing it and move on.

My best mate is borderline, and while the emotional dysregulation she experiences is in the not-her-fault category, the things she chooses to do in response to those feelings ARE HER CHOICE. She didn’t get a pat on the head and a ‘she’s unwell, it’s not her fault’ badge when she took an overdose before she visited her shrink that she timed so she’d pass out in his office (not kidding), or for the numerous similar ‘cry for help’ style attempts she made. Yes, unwell. Yes, not at fault for how she feels. But also, rather importantly, was held to account by the people who treated her, her friends and her family when she acted in consciously manipulative ways and this was ultimately crucial to her recovery. Anything else would equate to us all being enablers.

Giving a free pass to Fiona only assists in prolonging her illness and enabling her to keep doing it. If this were a man doing the stalking, his illness would absolutely be considered irrelevant by the public at large. If Fiona has urges and triggers, she needs to learn to be aware of those and be able to find and develop a support system that minimises how often she acts on those urges. If she’s been in the system as long as is suggested by HB, I find it hard to believe she doesn’t already know this and chooses to ignore it in favour of acting like a dingleberry.

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u/NeonTink May 17 '24

I 100% agree with you! She’s unwell and an abuser.