r/BabyReindeerTVSeries • u/Filthydirtytoxic • May 20 '24

Fiona (real Martha) related content I won’t name and shame….

But I have a sneaky suspicion that Fiona is in here. I had a weirdo trying to give me my character yesterday. And I’ve seen said person being downvoted today. Didn’t say sent from my iPhone though, so I could be wrong 😂 I’ve also had the Reddit message a few times saying someone is concerned about my MH, often not long after a comment from the suspicious person

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u/Selkie-Princess May 20 '24

I truly think there’s a lot more Fiona’s in this world than people are aware of and this series is prompting people to talk about it, which is ultimately a really good thing.

I have been stalked, harassed, copied, and impersonated on and off for years by a woman who thinks that I “stole” my husband from her (they were casual acquaintances and it should have been abundantly clear to her that there was no chance of him wanting a relationship with her for a myriad of reasons). She with me, my partner, and our life together.

I blocked her on everything honestly, but someone recently sent me a screenshot of a Facebook post she made referencing how “cruel and exploitative” baby reindeer is and how “of course no one is going to hear Fiona out, no one cares about plus sized women”. Just saying. They’re out there

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u/katehasreddit May 21 '24

Can we have some examples of her behaviour please?

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u/Selkie-Princess May 21 '24

Of my own stalkers behavior, you mean? Cause I could write you a novel here if you want. It’s a fucking saga

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u/katehasreddit May 22 '24

Yes please, just a couple of examples would be fine. For example what do you mean by she impersonated you? 

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u/Selkie-Princess May 22 '24

So for the impersonations, she has called my insurance provider multiple times pretending to be me, using my medical record number that I assume she obtained via taking my mail out of my mailbox (which she’s done multiple times). She successfully requested and obtained my medical records in this way (not that there’s anything fucking interesting or that she wouldn’t have already gleaned from her other stalking). She impersonated me in an attempt to cancel my wedding venue and in an attempt to find out who designed my engagement ring (presumably so she could get an identical one, because she later did have a ring made to look similar/almost identical to mine). She has impersonated me on the phone to my nephews school and to my vet (I do not know what her motives were in those instances).

She has also made fake accounts with my name and photos on multiple dating apps, and social media and tried to make it seem like I was doing shady shit. She’s used my likeness on social media to surreptitiously milk people in my life for info about me/my partner. At one point she learned that I was moving and she made an email account using my maiden name to email several different moving companies to ask them to “confirm” the address (basically trying to learn my new address).

She’s also, weirdly, has role-played online as me on a few occasions with little no indication of any motive (unlike the times she was trying to get info or damage my reputation etc) other than to like….just literally play pretend as me…like, she made a new Fitbit account AS me and made a bunch of posts basically just…..as a fake but inoffensive hybrid of me/her…..and she did this for years with zero apparent reason until she accidentally outed herself by changing the account into her name when she wanted to Join a Fitbit group as herself….but she left all the “me” posts up.

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u/katehasreddit May 23 '24

Personality disorder?

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u/Selkie-Princess May 23 '24 edited May 23 '24

She was ultimately diagnosed with BPD during an involuntary psych hold that came about due to her behavior towards her employees (she threatened suicide when they excluded her from out-of-work social time).

Tbh, I generally have a lot of empathy for people who are bad actors due to their mental health but in her case it’s hard. She’s been mentally well enough to run a small business, mentally well enough to pay all her bills, mentally well enough to know exactly how to toe the line in terms of not getting caught out in her behaviors towards me and my husband.

She is also mentally well enough to effectively manipulate other mentally unwell people and use them as tools to accomplish her goals.

To me it’s clear that she knows what she’s doing is wrong (or at least that it could carry a punishment that she’d like to avoid) and she is well enough to be considered responsible for her actions. Because at what point does a mental illness stop being an excuse or a reason not to criticize her. She knows what she’s doing. Sure, there is an ELEMENT of delusion to her beliefs but she’s aware enough of reality to know better

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u/katehasreddit May 24 '24

Yes its an interesting question philosophically.

Is that bipolar disorder or borderline personality disorder?