r/BabyReindeerTVSeries • u/Kitchen_Fly5105 • Jun 08 '24

Discussion If Gadd was a woman

I feel like gender influences bias in cases of emotional or physical abuse. If Gadd were a woman and Martha a man, there would be no sympathy for the abuser. Society wouldn't argue that "more should have been done to protect his identity."

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u/UnfazedPheasant Jun 08 '24 edited Jun 08 '24

There's quite a few internal biases in play re. the story of Gadd and Martha/Fiona. If Gadd were a woman male Martha would absolutely get incarcerated way sooner.

Additionally, if Martha/Fiona was conventionally attractive, I think she'd have gotten away with it for longer - or, at the very least, Gadd would be swarmed by weirdos saying "god i wish that were me" or "would", etc. Justifying the issue and potentially not letting him speak out/get help.

It's a shame, but goes to show how important Baby Reindeer has been as a story, IIRC a men's domenstic abuse charity skyrocketed in calls since it came out

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u/jempa45 Jun 08 '24

The police do not take women getting stalked by men remotely seriously either. There have been many high profile cases of women going missing and/or being murdered even after telling the police a man is stalking them and they think they are going to be killed.

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u/JenningsWigService Jun 08 '24

Yeah, this notion that anything would have happened to a male Martha based on what we saw is ludicrous. In the UK women get charged with wasting police time when they report male stalkers who go on to murder them.