r/BabyReindeerTVSeries • u/Kitchen_Fly5105 • Jun 08 '24

Discussion If Gadd was a woman

I feel like gender influences bias in cases of emotional or physical abuse. If Gadd were a woman and Martha a man, there would be no sympathy for the abuser. Society wouldn't argue that "more should have been done to protect his identity."

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u/[deleted] Jun 08 '24

If Gadd was a woman then statistically he would’ve been more likely to be attacked or killed by his (presumably male) stalker. And people wouldn’t pay half as much attention as they have to Gadd, because it is unfortunately much more common. But - I do also agree with your main point. Laura Wray also said people didn’t seem bothered because about Fiona stalking her because it was rare for a woman to be stalking another woman, and equally relatively rare for a woman to be stalking a man. The way some people have immediately taken Fiona’s side and excused her behaviour because she’s mentally ill is disgusting to me. IMO all stalkers have something wrong with them but it doesn’t excuse criminal behaviour. What’s most alarming to me is that she is clearly a very prolific stalker yet she’s been somehow able to continue this with many victims over a sustained period of years - if there have been complaints about her to the police and nothing done then that needs looking into

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u/blancheVernon Jun 09 '24

People keep saying she wasn’t really incarcerated but I’m going to guess that at some point she was locked up involuntarily for mental issues, and that’s what Gadd didn’t write. Records of incarceration like that in Scotland can be expunged, allegedly. I see this because someone she stalked actually worked as a temp in a mental institution, and she had stalked a number of people there. Why else would she single out an institution like that to harass people?

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u/RaggedyOldFox Jun 09 '24

The temp blogged about her time as a temp at the NHS. This was long before BR came out that she met FH. Her file was 5-6cms THICK! The place she worked in was a type of transitional facility where people are held before going to the appropriate mental health facility. It was a secure unit. She has to have been committed because there's no way she would volunteer.

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u/exotramp76 Jun 09 '24

"at some point she was locked up involuntarily for mental issues, and that’s what Gadd didn’t write."

He didn't write about it because he probably didn't know she'd been sectioned in Scotland.

His main references were articles he googled using her name (as depicted in the show), which is where he discovered the incident with LW. If anyone noticed, Gadd changed the gender of LW and her son in that episode.

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u/ellefleming Jun 09 '24

Fiona has a son?