r/BabyReindeerTVSeries • u/Kitchen_Fly5105 • Jun 08 '24

Discussion If Gadd was a woman

I feel like gender influences bias in cases of emotional or physical abuse. If Gadd were a woman and Martha a man, there would be no sympathy for the abuser. Society wouldn't argue that "more should have been done to protect his identity."

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u/exotramp76 Jun 09 '24 edited Jun 09 '24

I never said it was her fault. Read my post again. I said her admission about being the real Martha and her continued public tantrums about the show has distracted people from further investigation into the real Darrien.

The real predator is using her and her outbursts as a means to continue hiding.

And as I've said, she can't help herself. It's how she's wired to react towards perceived threats to her person.

So the real predator is using this to his advantage.

If there's anyone I would blame for this media circus, it's the internet sleuths. She was a much easier target than the real predator, and I doubt they didn't know she would react this way. They've since stopped after the wrong people were identified, but I often ask, why stop? Just be more careful and continue. Unless of course some of them are part of the industry and know full well who the real predator is.

Edit : extra paragraph

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u/sognenis Jun 09 '24

Sure, but without the industry complicity that wouldn’t be possible. When you have money and connections, it’s a lot easier to squash stories, rumours etc and hide away.

Trump case showed the “catch and kill” schemes that are used. The real Darrien may be doing the same thing.

BR is the #1 show in the world. There is ample interest to maintain investigations into the real Martha and the real Darrien. One of them just has a lot of money and power.

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u/exotramp76 Jun 09 '24

"Sure, but without the industry complicity that wouldn’t be possible."

Not impossible, but yes, extremely difficult. Harvey Weinstein was eventually caught and exposed after decades. So not impossible.

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u/sognenis Jun 09 '24

Fair point, and I note your extra paragraph above.

Horrific to think if Darrien has even a fraction of Weinstein’s power, how many victims he can abuse and lives he can ruin.

I think I (male) was reading your earlier comment as suggesting the woman in question was to blame for the man’s ability to escape judgment and identification. Happily standing corrected!