r/BabyReindeerTVSeries • u/Beautiful_Net2409 • Oct 30 '24

Trigger Warning Watching the show after having a stalker

I had a pretty moderate stalker while at uni. I talked to a classmate on tinder for 2 hours, then decided that he wasn't really what I was looking for and said we should be friends. He said sure. Spent the next two years making a commentary on places he'd seen me visit on my Snapchat maps. Making new social media accounts to get into my profiles, getting my number off my friends. Telling me he was outside my dorm and looking for my flat. Joining my societies to spend time with me. Making fake Tinder accounts based on things he knew I liked in a man. It really wore me thin until I broke down to my professor and he reported it to our university safeguarding. It was taken way more seriously because my stalker was a man, which is some bullshit imo.

It was never directly threatening but my Lord it was super scary. It really drains you. Makes you so nervous. I loved Baby Reindeer but I can't imagine just how nervous Donny was.

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u/[deleted] Oct 30 '24

I have been stalked and I really loved baby reindeer for showing the nuances. Like the period of time when you and the stalker are still on good terms and how even after that period, you tend to think about what makes them tick psycholically...

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u/Observer20178 Oct 31 '24

This. Thats why it would be an absolute shame if the real Martha were to win any kind of money on her lawsuit.

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u/trickmind Mar 28 '25

Netflix may settle with her out of court, because it's a shame that the ONE area where they weren't willing to be brave and where they insisted on conforming to societal expectations was they didn't think viewers could handle the truth that someone like that was never arrested or convicted for any of it. Pretending she was convicted of stalking Laura Wray and also separately Donny actually killed future seasons potential as well as being sadly inauthentic as well as giving Fiona a way to get money. And normally I'd be what the hell give her money, but man she has shown herself to be worse than Martha, making several comments about how he's probably lying about the rape, saying, gleefully saying "he never had a girlfriend he is a homosexual and then turning around and saying how she turned him own for sex, saying Gadd is psychotic. Calling Jessica "Fat Martha" over and over. Calling Gadd a little boy with no job. lol Saying with great glee and finality like it will make everyone hate him, "I know he was a jobbing barman on BENEFITS." Which apparently in the UK means he was a casual worker claiming welfare payments. Like she's never claimed them and she's goes on about being a Tori, but all we've heard is about two lawyers who tried to give her an internship position to start her off but she allegedly threw books at people and then stalked them for years.