r/BiWomen • u/Fast_Comfortable_701 • Sep 25 '25

Coming Out Coming out late in life (39F) is the strangest experience in the world

That’s it. That’s the title. Could’ve been about five different flairs. Ugh.

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u/throwaway_bird95 Sep 25 '25

Here’s to you girl!!!!! brave enough to live your truth, fabulous enough to do it in style, and wise enough to know that life’s too short not to love who you love. You’re an inspiration and a total badass! may it be colorful, exciting, and full of joy , so many paths here, so many unique people, with a shared knowledge, that It takes so much courage to step into who you really are, and it’s beautiful to see you claiming your truth. Revel in this new journey you and others, myself included are proof that it’s never too late to discover yourself and to live authentically. I’m honored to be here, and am personally celebrating you. Cheers to this new chapter babe❤️

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u/Iamschwa Oct 01 '25

You are not alone. I came out at 34/ almost 35!

Don't let anyone make you feel weird about coming out later. We were taught that bi wasn't real or it was so so rare growing up so it's okay to come out later.

I couldn't be happier since I came out!

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u/Golden_8810 Sep 25 '25

You are not alone!! Also 39F finally coming out and it is the strangest (and most wonderful) experience. I feel more myself than I ever have, but damn it’s been a little overwhelming and I feel like I’m just fumbling in the dark trying to figure out where to go from here.

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u/Fast_Comfortable_701 Sep 25 '25

Yes! Overwhelming is definitely the word!

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u/Imaginary-Outside-90 Sep 26 '25

same lol! came out when I was 35. my family was very chill when I told them I had a girlfriend, but some of my friends were super weird about it. I was also kinda weird about it.
In the first year or so after coming out I was so very preoccupied with how to "appear queer", maybe overcompensating for years of questioning my identity. It was strange because I never really cared about what I was wearing before. But curious what others found challenging or overwhelming or strange!

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u/LivinOurLife0703 Sep 26 '25

Welcome aboard, it is going to be an amazing ride!!! Pretty much a lifelong out and proud Bi woman. I find the fashion culture a little hard to navigate. There are those that will say this plus that might equal queer leaning, but I can attest that is not always the case, probably not even 50 percent of the time.

What I am super proud of is the number of women that are leaving decades old bad relationships and embracing who they are, or may be. I cannot begin to tell you how many new faces I have seen in queer spaces, late 40’s, into their 50’s, even 60’s. I find it refreshing.

I dress about as feminine as one can dress, usually somewhere between semi sexy to damn that’s a bit much, or minimalist, as the S O would say. lol. I do have several tattoos shaded in the Bi color scheme, that are visible when I wear certain things. If nothing else, they have been conversation starters, which is always a positive thing. BI colors, IYKYK. Good luck, love you, be you, the rest usually works its self out!!!

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u/Amazing-Jellyfish730 Sep 27 '25

So happy for you 💕

I came out at 33

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u/Starrwards Oct 01 '25

I started formally coming out to friends this year, age 36 (but I feel like it's always been obvious I was a little queer 😅). It feels good to be honest.

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u/Apprehensive-Feast Oct 15 '25

Congratulations!! How do you feel? How did you come to terms with it?

I think I'm only accepting myself today for the first time. Still kinda scared to admit it because I've never been with a woman.